how did you know?

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Registered: 01-05-2004
how did you know?
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 2:30pm

so anxious and paranoid but things are just really weird here; he doesn't call me at work; he either acts super nice or just different; how do you really know.

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Registered: 08-25-2009
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 6:18am
You've talked about your little voice in the pit of your gut telling you something is not quite right... follow through with it.
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Registered: 07-02-2008
Mon, 06-07-2010 - 12:52am

Your gut tells you if you listen to it. My gut was telling me but my heart wasnt ready to accept it. Then one day I was sitting next to him at a picnic, his phone rang and the second he answered it I" knew" (just by the vibe I picked up). He only said a couple words to "the caller" but I knew I had my answer right then and there. A week later I confronted, I did not ask him if he was in

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Sun, 06-06-2010 - 9:55pm

after we started a family the sex dropped. After our 1st

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2009
Sun, 06-06-2010 - 7:36pm
...why haven't you had sex in years?...

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Sun, 06-06-2010 - 7:12pm

I found the positive pregnancy test on friday night by accident. We havent had sex for several years so now i'm a tortured soul.

I had noticed the social interaction between them but just put it down to frinedship. A few changes in behavour but I could always explain that away logically.

Now I know & I'm gutted yet Im not angry with her. I love her madly (been together 17 years) & want to support during this time. I still believe in a future but time & a lot of work is needed.

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Registered: 02-25-2010
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 10:22pm

I will tell you that it happened to me the way you say, all of a sudden I noticed differences and my little voice said to start being snoopy. He lied for over a year about the truth and just said he wss leaving one day, one thing I have learned is after 12 years , I was married 16, is that you know in the pit of your stomach when something is up
Just ask him whats going on without being accusatory.
it might be something good, but certainly dont overlook it
I did and ended up with an STD to boot

wishing you love and grace


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Registered: 09-09-2008
Thu, 06-03-2010 - 3:12pm
I'd be awfully careful jumping to conclusions, esp. if you're already aware you have anxiety problems.