how do I stop thinking??

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Registered: 07-30-2009
how do I stop thinking??
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 3:35pm

I found out about his GF 5/11/09.

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 6:29pm
I feel your pain. Everything you said sounds like what I am dealing with. It sucks. The only way to let go is to talk about it. The only way for me to feel better is talking to him.... it is hard. I doubt he'd forgive me if I cheated..... The fling with his ex was a year ago... I was the new gf she was the office tramp of 5 years who he cheated on his other 7 year relationship. With..
It sucks they were still friends and hid it and it escalated once he drank more and I could NT stand his behavior. But today we are happy and I have my moments.... I found put 2 months ago then he proposed once he came clean...i started to write a lo this week... write everything down it helps... I started Wednesday and I am on my tenth page.... without a computer only phone and really need to write... try it... just write every thought out password protect it in word.... are u seeing a therapist? I tried but therapist didn't want me to talk about The past... just gave me wedding advice do I didn't go back... the other option is to never see him again and that I can't bear so I have to deal with it... what do u want? Letting go I'd a decision... It is so hard though once some disappoints you so much... you never view their character the same.
Hang in there please send me messages to talk if u want I need to talk to someone too....
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Registered: 09-16-2009
Fri, 01-29-2010 - 7:19pm

Hey, Both of you...

This is TYPICAL post dday behavior from your guys... they don't want to talk about it, they want to focus on the 'good stuff', they want to move forward/not live in the past....