he should not have involved your daughter in his lies - what a crime (you know this though)
it can take years to get over and move on and even then you are forever changed
communicating the pain of betrayal to him will help you heal he has to have remorse and regret and be expressive (live it not just say it)and he has to be willing to support you through the pain
it sounds like he is still distant and does not want to face what he has done to you
he may come around he may not - it can take years for him to become a good spouse better than ever if he is willing to do the work
peace and strength to you
OMG....what you said is so true now that I think about it.