how do you get over it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-30-2009
how do you get over it?
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Thu, 07-30-2009 - 3:43pm
Long story short, we have been married 32 years.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2008
Thu, 07-30-2009 - 7:58pm

he should not have involved your daughter in his lies - what a crime (you know this though)

it can take years to get over and move on and even then you are forever changed

communicating the pain of betrayal to him will help you heal
he has to have remorse and regret and be expressive (live it not just say it)and he has to be willing to support you through the pain

it sounds like he is still distant and does not want to face what he has done to you

he may come around he may not - it can take years for him to become a good spouse better than ever if he is willing to do the work

peace and strength to you

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-30-2009
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 1:26am
thanks for the kind words.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 10:38am
No, you cannot trust him again, at least the way things stand now.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 08-03-2009 - 10:28am

Hi Imafighter,

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-19-2008
Mon, 08-03-2009 - 7:25pm
It's all about him. Everything is all about him. So, no, you can't trust him. He's upset about himself. He'll take you back if you don't question him, don't ask him for anything, just do whatever he needs done to make himself feel good about himself. You need a life of your very own. You are a stronger woman than you believe yourself to be. You need to move on and let this man deal with himself by himself. You can never trust this man.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-30-2009
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 12:08am

OMG....what you said is so true now that I think about it.