How do you handle the ANGER???

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Registered: 01-13-2009
How do you handle the ANGER???
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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 10:32pm

I am still new to this. I put the pieces together 3 weeks ago and I am so mad I want to beat the crap out of my W's boss. I literally want to go into their office (a very large company) and beat him the cafeteria infront of everyone. I want to hurt this pr*ck so bad that he will never look at another married woman.


I can't stand looking at my W and she told me that she is moving out to her sister's this weekend. I offered to help her pack today.


Everyone found out in the last 7 days. Her parents, my parents, her brothers & sisters

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Registered: 09-05-2008
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 2:06pm

checking in Raging_bull09 ...


i'm thinking about you today man

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 2:20pm
I'm sure you do want to hurt him, anyone here can understand that.

 

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 4:23pm

I want to thank all of you for your kind words. Today has been miserable. My kids found and her family just left. My Priest "is deeply disappointed in me"!!!! WTF??? W is coming by later tonight to get the rest of her stuff. My kids will be home tomorrow as we are going away for the long weekend.


Her family thinks it was a "mistake, error in judgment". I asked my FIL what would he think if his wife was F'ing around on him. It got very quiet in the kitchen.


I have reason to believe that she "entertained" him in our house.


The hits keep coming.....


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Registered: 01-13-2009
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 4:32pm
Thanks..It has been a bad day all around...My kids found out...f" me....
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Registered: 07-14-2007
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 4:35pm
Good thing your OWs H didn't do that to your H, huh?
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Registered: 10-08-2008
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 5:53pm

I have to agree with Jayeml on this,

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Registered: 09-05-2008
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 6:34pm

F'in A

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Registered: 10-11-2008
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 7:17pm

RB--This absolutely sucks.

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Registered: 02-01-2008
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 8:53pm

One very practical thing that helped me (you may have already done this) was writing out a letter to my H that I knew I wouldn't give him. I don't usually write (I don't keep a journal or anything like that), but once I got started, I kept writing and writing.

I held nothing back, and I'm usually very reserved, especially in my language, so it really felt good to just let it out and "tell him" in no uncertain terms how I felt.

Then I typed it out, adjusting, adding, and changing things. I think I did that two or three times. I eventually shredded all the copies. They were all really too cruel and crude to let anyone else read.

In our case, we kept our family completely out of it. In fact, a year later only one of our friends knows what happened. You never know how your family and others around you are going to respond. They all have their own ideas about how you should act, why things happened the way they happened, etc. The last thing we wanted was their input!

I know you've already talked to your family (and friends?) but you may want to just leave them out of further developments for your own sanity!

I am sorry for the pain and anger you are having to deal with. I wish you the best, and please keep us posted.

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Wed, 01-14-2009 - 9:44pm

Tell me again why I should care about OM's W or family? Did he care about me or my family? He was at my house!!!! Was he blind to all of the pictures of my kids and my family.


OM now has his own world of pain to deal with. His W now knows and I told her that I am going after him via his job.


Time for the OM to realize that the bill is coming due....


Still Raging....