How do you handle the ANGER???

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Registered: 01-13-2009
How do you handle the ANGER???
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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 10:32pm

I am still new to this. I put the pieces together 3 weeks ago and I am so mad I want to beat the crap out of my W's boss. I literally want to go into their office (a very large company) and beat him the cafeteria infront of everyone. I want to hurt this pr*ck so bad that he will never look at another married woman.


I can't stand looking at my W and she told me that she is moving out to her sister's this weekend. I offered to help her pack today.


Everyone found out in the last 7 days. Her parents, my parents, her brothers & sisters

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Thu, 01-22-2009 - 9:11am
Thank You...How long have you been rebuilding....
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Registered: 10-08-2008
Thu, 01-22-2009 - 2:36pm

Hi Jack,


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Registered: 08-11-2008
Fri, 01-23-2009 - 1:33pm

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This is what gets to me the most. I cannot believe that my dumb A husband had S with that slut in the same bed we slept in every night. What were they thinking??


I really try to wrap my brain around what he was thinking when they were "doing it" in our bed!


Ugh! Tell me again why I'm rebuilding with this idiot.

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Fri, 01-23-2009 - 3:22pm

CF..That is one of the hardest things I am dealing with. It is also the reason the reason I moved the Master Bedroom and Living Room sets out of my home.


When I think about it I get so d*mn angry. The level of betrayal is staggering at times.


Can I ask a question? Why rebuild?


Jack

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Registered: 08-11-2008
Sat, 01-24-2009 - 9:17am

"""Can I ask a question? Why rebuild?"""


I decided to rebuild because I have been with my H for a long time. During that time he was the greatest man I have ever known. He f-ed up really bad by having the A, but he is so remorseful and he is doing everything to make me realize that he is still the greatest man I know but he is imperfect. He made horrible decisions but that is not who he is. Our M before the A was wonderful. Being with him was the safest place I have known and I love him with all of my heart.


I have learned that forgiveness, although it is sooooooo HARD, can be one of the greatest gifts you can give someone. There are people who are naturally evil and intend to do harm to others, and there are people who are good but sometimes loose their way and make really dumb choices. My H was in pain when he had his A. It wasn't about me, it was something within himself; but I know that he still is a wonderful person. We are working through our issues and we are both determined to fill the gaps in our M and make it better than ever. When I think about growing old, I want him to be there by my side with me forever. Although, in rebuilding, sometimes I just want to throw him out, most of the time I don't want to live without him and I know he feels the same way about me.

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Registered: 10-08-2008
Sun, 01-25-2009 - 2:40pm

CF,


I loved your post and agree and feel as you do.

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