How would you interpret this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2008
How would you interpret this?
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Wed, 01-26-2011 - 4:56pm

Been stewing over this for weeks and I'd like some feedback ... am I making something out of nothing?

H and I were eating out at a place we go to often. It was going okay, pretty typical. Toward the end a woman came by our table really quick and before I knew it DUMPED a drink over H's head and ran out. I only got a glimpse of her and she did not look familiar.

H didn't seem shocked really, just startled. I was really embarrassed, everyone was staring at us. He cleaned himself up and we paid and left. He said he didn't recognize the woman, barely got a look at her. He was not as mad as I thought he would be. He's a cop and wound up pretty tight and goes off on a lot of things ... what do you think?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Tue, 02-01-2011 - 12:51am
I also try to picture my own DH in this situation - he'd get stinking po'd and likely yell and follow her to find out what the heck it was about.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2008
Tue, 02-01-2011 - 7:16am

yes I've seen how he acts and he doesn't mess around. I think he would check security cameras, ask workers there who the woman is, etc., try to get to the bottom of it. Heck he's a COP! But no, he's all, who knows what that's about, just let it go. I don't buy it, but I know better than to push it. Thanks for the feedback!

-jana

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 5:47am
Why do you care?

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2008
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 7:13am

If he's up to something I need to know,, like everybody else. Security in my home and life and protecting myself. There's a dark side to him, I knew that since I met him on line and he's been up to no good before. But sometimes things that appear sketchy can be innocent and maybe this drink thing was that, I don't want to be unfair.

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Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 9:38am
janamich67 wrote:

If he's up to something I need to know,, like everybody else. Security in my home and life and protecting myself. There's a dark side to him, I knew that since I met him on line and he's been up to no good before. But sometimes things that appear sketchy can be innocent and maybe this drink thing was that, I don't want to be unfair.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-18-2008
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 5:55pm
No, I don't tell, and he doesn't know. If he thought I was up to something I'm sure he would try to find out, just like I'm trying to find out about him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2009
Wed, 02-02-2011 - 7:23pm
Whatever.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2009
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 12:34pm

i am thinking he must have been involved with her, possibly told her he was single/divorced/widowed.

just too bizarre to be 'nothing' and too bizarre that he did not run after her if he did not recognize her.

sorry you find yourself here

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 1:03pm
So why do you even care if you yourself had (and are presently in) an affair of your own? Isn't this just a case of "what's good for the goose is good for the gander" I'd be more concerned about the STDS or AIDS that either of you could be bringing home if anything.
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Registered: 12-06-2010
Thu, 02-03-2011 - 11:37pm

I think it is very insensitive of you to post on our board.

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