How would you interpret this?

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Registered: 12-18-2008
How would you interpret this?
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Wed, 01-26-2011 - 4:56pm

Been stewing over this for weeks and I'd like some feedback ... am I making something out of nothing?

H and I were eating out at a place we go to often. It was going okay, pretty typical. Toward the end a woman came by our table really quick and before I knew it DUMPED a drink over H's head and ran out. I only got a glimpse of her and she did not look familiar.

H didn't seem shocked really, just startled. I was really embarrassed, everyone was staring at us. He cleaned himself up and we paid and left. He said he didn't recognize the woman, barely got a look at her. He was not as mad as I thought he would be. He's a cop and wound up pretty tight and goes off on a lot of things ... what do you think?

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Registered: 02-15-2011
Tue, 02-15-2011 - 1:48pm
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Registered: 09-18-2007
Sun, 02-27-2011 - 10:51pm

Having known a cop or two in my time, I'd interpret it as a scorned, scorched woman.

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 11:19pm

goddess thanks for the smile!!

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Registered: 09-18-2007
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 7:46pm
Thanks, Ollie -- I actually did steal the 200 pounds of elephant dung from First Place on this year's Darwin Awards. I'm sure you've had a chance to grimace when you read them, and it's likely you do.

To Jana: If you're waiting in hopes your guy is going to outgrow this behavior, I want to be your colourist when your lovely locks start turning gray. By some chemical magic, my hair actually turned blond while his turned white. I waited almost 30 years - to no avail. Think Peter Pan. Best of luck and my heart goes out to you.
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Fri, 03-04-2011 - 9:09am
Did you read the thread? OP has had several affairs and currently is in one now.

Maybe that elephant dung will fall on her head instead.

 

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Registered: 07-08-2010
Sat, 03-05-2011 - 10:01am
He's a cop; maybe he gave her a speeding ticket or arrested her husband or served her a summons.

Maybe mistaken identity. Maybe an affair partner he dumped.

Look at your/his phone records to find any unusual calling patterns or numbers. Go to his station and see if there is any woman there that matches her; or discretely ask staff at the station. Look at his cell phone for text messages: she/he will likely send a msg re:the water glass thing soon after the incident.
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Registered: 03-05-2011
Sat, 03-05-2011 - 8:19pm
I'd say something more is going on for sure.

I know if that happened to my other half while eating dinner she would have been stopped or chased....and they'd have called the cops etc.

I myself thinking even tossing a drink on someone is assault?
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Registered: 09-18-2007
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 1:23am
Cat,

Two wrongs do not make a right. I admit I haven't been in on all of it, and maybe the elephant dung should rain down on her, but that's not for me to say. Since this is not a discussion board, I won't go further than that. I'm not a Bible scholar, but I do know somewhere in there there's the words that start with "Judge not..." fill in the rest.

I stand by my response by simply taking it at face value. That may just be the way they play each other. Pretty simple, but I wouldn't live that life, would you?

GoddessSunny
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Registered: 11-13-2009
Mon, 03-07-2011 - 2:14am
I'm not sure what you're talking about exactly. This is indeed a discussion board. And people in affairs aren't supposed to be posting here.

And I don't appreciate someone throwing scripture out at me. If you're here in any way to defend women in affairs, then I'm afraid you're in the wrong place.

I agree that I wouldn't want to live life as they do.

 

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Registered: 09-18-2007
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 11:48am
Cat,

I meant to write that this is not a debate board. It is a support board for betrayed spouses, and I am one of those, which is why I post here. The original post on this thread was about how her man reacted to having a drink poured over his head by a woman he claimed he'd never laid eyes on before. You obviously know more about her history than I do. I don't believe women having affairs have a defensible position and I agree that they should not post here. I apologize for "throwing scripture" out at you. I do try to use good judgement when I post, and am sorry you feel as if I crossed the line. I do know what it's like to have Biblical references tossed at me, though.


I've posted here off and on for a number of years and have received the benefit of insight from others who have also suffered the pain of being betrayed as I have. Thanks for your response to my post, and I will more carefully weigh my words in the future.