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hurt any advice
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Sat, 02-07-2009 - 9:21pm

I dont want my family being nose so I erased my post.



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Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 02-07-2009 - 10:34pm
So when is he suppose to be actually leaving. Is she married also. Is he just talking about it or does he have an actual date planned.
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Sun, 02-08-2009 - 3:01am

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Sun, 02-08-2009 - 8:15am

So sorry you are going through this. Your kids are just so young too. My ex left our family twice, both times for women he was having affairs with, he did not want to work on our marriage ever. The first time, we ended up getting back together, but this time, he is living with the OW. My kids are older, my two youngest were 11, and 14 when he left (Nov. 0), and it has been a tough thing for all of us to go through. You will get through this, but it is not going to be easy, especially at first. Perhaps when you husband leaves, he might realize what he has lost, but you just never know. Please look up the 180 on this message board, and do as many of them as you can, it does help.

Take care of yourself, and those little ones,

Lori

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 2:21am

So sorry you are in such pain and that your H is being soooo selfish. Just know that you will get through this no matter what happens. Even though it is hard to even think straight right now, there are things you really need to do. First is to get a consultation with a lawyer just to find out what your rights are. I also recommend calling your doctor because you are going through a severe trauma and for me it really helped to take a anti-anxiety med during the rough time.


Remember that your H is in the affair fog right now so he is only thinking of what makes him "feel good". Another poster recommended you take a look the the "180" and impliment some of those actions as those actions are another way to get back the power and strength you will need.


Keep posting here, there is lots of kindness and understanding on this board. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF

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Mon, 02-09-2009 - 8:37am

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Mon, 02-09-2009 - 11:22am
I'm so sorry for your pain. I know how you feel -- I've been going through the same thing since November. My husband left me for one of best friends. I was betrayed by both of them and they are living together. I also have 2 children and it's been so hard on them. Take care of yourself right now. It's ok to cry and I know that some days you feel like you can't even breathe. Take one hour at a time, that's what I had to do in the beginning. Some days will be better than others. I had my doctor give me medicine to help me get through it in the beginning and it did help, you might want to give them a call. Unfortunately there are so many of us going through this. Keep talking with your friends and post here for support. I wish you all the best and I'm sending hugs your way --
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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 1:16pm
Sweetie I'm so sorry for what you are going thru BUT you have got to eat and take care of yourself so you have the energy to take care of those beautiful babies of yours.
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Registered: 07-02-2008
Tue, 02-10-2009 - 12:36am
Hi, I see you have deleted your posts but remember you can get ongoing support here that you may need. I think you can change your screen name if you are wary of your family seeing your posts. Hope you are doing ok
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Registered: 01-17-2006
Tue, 02-10-2009 - 3:08am

He is for sure leaving. He was being very cold about it tonight to. Maybe because hes tired and I kept pushing the issue (i need answers). Or maybe because of guilt.


He kept making me think he might stay or that we might get back together sometime,because I am

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