Husband Cheated!

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Registered: 01-06-2011
Husband Cheated!
Thu, 01-06-2011 - 11:43pm

Have been with my husband 12 years married for 5 years. about 2years ago. i could tell things were rocky and different. I had my suspicious but never had any proof he cheated. That was until about 2months ago. I Found pictures with a letter confirming there was someone else. the affair lasted for at least 9months. when i found out, packed my stuff & left that day to stay with a friend. I confronted him after i left. He said the affair was over etc..But needless to say i am still not back living with him. Going on two months now. we are talking and meeting here and there. I would like to work on my marriage and stay together if our relationship can be saved. I have my good days and bad days dealing with everything. We had our ups and downs but i always loved him...I'm having a hard time trying to figure how to trust him again & if i will ever feel

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Registered: 09-12-2008
Fri, 01-07-2011 - 3:15am


I'm so sorry this is happening to you.

The problem when we first find out is that we are about to make some of the most important choices of our lives at a time when we are emotionally at our worst. I was never worse in my life than those first few months after I found out about my spouses affairs. There are so many types of betrayals going on and it looks like a hole that I could never climb out of.


We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.