i don't think my H know what he wants...

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Registered: 02-19-2010
i don't think my H know what he wants...
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Sun, 03-14-2010 - 1:29pm

i don't think my H know what he wants to do



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Registered: 02-19-2010
Sun, 03-14-2010 - 1:52pm
when i found out about his affair he said that the affair doesn't go away and that i deserved better.
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Registered: 07-18-2009
Wed, 03-17-2010 - 2:24am

You're darn right, he doesn't know what he wants. And he's using you like a pinball in his machine...one day you're over here, the next day you're over there. He's controlling your buttons and it's turning you insane. I know because I've been there. But you're strong, don't let him distract you from what you need to do. It's not up to you to move out and look for apartments, especially when you have children, pack his bags and change the locks. You have every legal right to do that.

Create some space to take care of yourself and your daughters and become healthy. It's easy for me to say, because that's what I did. But it's not easy, I decided one day my life with my H was crushing me and I was dying inside. I had nowhere to go so I did the next best thing and made him go.

Once the noise stops, you'll find peace. I wish you all the best, stay focussed.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-17-2010 - 2:32pm
Oh, I think what he wants is perfectly obvious - he wants his fling with the OW and he wants you and the kiddies at home waiting to play "happy family" when he feels like it.
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Registered: 08-25-2009
Fri, 03-19-2010 - 5:58am
I'm not one for posting judgements or being very critical, but HUH? If one of your girlfriends came over today and gave the same story you just gave on again off again, what advice would you give her? Would you say "look you crazy B, get yourself together for yourself and for your children- you know you would" we can't watch our friends doing silly unthinkable things and we know how to help them, but we sure pull some funny moves eh? And why do you want this man again? because he's a good, loving father? a best friend to you? shows his honor and respect for you? Moving out or not is up to you as to which is easier on you.. but reality says you two need some space between you.