I don't understand why...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2010
I don't understand why...
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Tue, 03-16-2010 - 4:57am

I've never used an online support group forum before, let alone any kind of support group. 7 months ago I was happily engaged to my now ex. The first day I met him I fell in love. April 9, 2007 it was 10:30 at night in our neighborhood. He said hi and asked me who I was - It began from there. We were a good drive away from each other with work and my school it was hard to ever see him. We talked everynight though from the time I got home untill 3 to 4 in the morning. Everynight. We fell in love. I, at the time 17 thought he was my saviour in my life. I was phisically and mentally abused,kicked out of the house bouncing around to whatever family would take me in. He helped me through it all. I was the first to say I love you - but he and I both knew I wasn't in love. He was the first to say he was in love. 3 weeks into our relationship he asked me to marry him... and I said yes. Everyday was beautiful untill be broke up with me a month later. We didn't talk for 3 months though I thought of him everyday. He asked me back out again and I said yes - the days were beautiful, the way he made me smile, his care towards me, he told me i was his everything, he told me to never hurt him or leave him, he told me i was his princess, his world, his angel, his true love...

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-16-2010 - 8:14am
There is a Betrayed Girlfriends support group on iVillage that would probably be better suited to you.
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Registered: 07-02-2008
Thu, 03-18-2010 - 12:10am

HI, I bet your ex BF is young too? Just like you I met "the one" when I was 17. I was a virgin too and VERY naive in the ways of young men. Just like you my BF would break up with me time and time again but I thought he was the only one who would ever want me (again, very naive). When he wanted me back, I would come running of course only to get hurt again. He was NOT worth it.


The main thing that concerns me is that you are being abused at home. What you may want to do is find out if there is a battered women's shelter in your area. They should be able to help you. Is there a large church organization in your area. Many offer counseling and maybe even safe shelter.