I guess the break really IS complete

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Registered: 02-04-2009
I guess the break really IS complete
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Wed, 07-01-2009 - 10:04am

I know that W and I are pretty much disconnected, but had no idea just how much so until last night.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 10:29am

I think your W is pretty much disconnected from RL. Once you leave her, her MM is in for a bumpy ride, too. She is going to become very needy very quickly and he is going to try to disconnect from her without "hurting" her so she doesn't pull him down with her. It will be interesting to see how this explodes into his life. They both are in for a bumpy ride. Up to this point, the only consequences either of them have had to deal with have been trying to get you to the spot they think they have you in.

I would encourage you to give his W some warning. I think she deserves to know what is going on and that her life is going to be turned upside down.

When are you going to be able to get out?

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 12:29pm

Thinkingman,


I know exactly where your at.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 1:12pm

Thanks for the feedback.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 2:35pm
I think that pamme meant giving a head's up to the OM's W, not thinkingman's wife.
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Registered: 10-11-2008
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 2:43pm

TM


Your situations parallels mine very closely.

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 2:44pm
I can't remember where I read this, but it was something to the effect that nothing is worse than indifference.

 

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 2:49pm

Hello thinkingman,


Being in a state of ambivelance is exactly where I was before I separated from my ex.

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Registered: 02-24-2009
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 3:27pm
I would also like to add something else.
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Registered: 11-13-2006
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 4:52pm

Dear Thinkingman,


I am confused. Never tell your Sons of what, that their Mom tried to blackmail you to continue supporting her, because of how it will affect their financial aid (which she is probably mistaken about BTW, unless she can jump right into a high paying job), or that she is in a R with another man and refuses to end it, causing you to file for D?


In reference to this, Myradorn mentioned

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 6:20pm

MLB, points well taken and I understand your concern.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

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