I'm suffering a moral dilema and I didn't know where else to go.
as a married women, i'd want to know.
I would have wanted to know unless the affair had already ended before the informant found out about it. My H affair went on for so long and I sure wish I would have known much much sooner. I feel like such a fool being played for so long by them.
The wife is probably too busy with the two babies to even realize that H is not acting normal but she will be feeling it eventually. If you know for sure that he is going to file for divorce, then it's probably best for the wife not to know about the affair, the divorce will be painful enough.
Does your friend have any feelings of guilt or shame? She needs to also take a look at the BS board to see what the wife will go through when she finds out. I told my now ex-friend when she was all giddy that I could no longer be her friend until she was out of the affair. I gave her the info about the EAS board too as I knew she was addicted to the A.
"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop." Herb Stein
My BF cheated on me with his X... yes the woman that had an affair with his best friend and that is why they separated and he cheated with her on me... I found out through email, but I wish someone had told me sooner.
I applaud you for coming to this board and seeking out advice/opinions. It’s so rare that people these days give any thought, or care, or lend a hand to strangers. Know that if you decide to disclose the affair to the wife, it’s not out of malicious intent but it’s the most compassionate act you can take in a situation like this.
I was thinking of just mailing her a note with my friend's number on it and telling her she might want to call it because her husband has on a daily basis for many many months!!
YES BY ALL MEANS TELL!