I know... now what? :(

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2011
I know... now what? :(
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Sun, 11-06-2011 - 6:08am

Hi Everyone

I've just found out my husband of 15 years has been on those online sex/dating sites and has been communicating and even meeting up with other women (unclear if anything actually happened - apart from the deception, etc of course) I've read his online profile and emails between these other women and to say they were explicit would be an understatement.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2009
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 6:57pm

hey peace:

i think we have come a long way in the past 34 years - i wish there would have been sites like this back, but hell back then i was still using my finger to add and subtract.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Thu, 11-17-2011 - 12:03am
Isn't that something that you just happened to be sitting next to this lady waiting for an RX. Seems like you were the divine intervention in her life sissy. Sounds like your little talk may have saved her many years of heartache. Wish we could save em all. Way to go siss : )
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2009
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 5:25pm

i just read your latest post, where he has already contacted one of them.

winter - he is showing you who he really is - now, is the man you want to grow old with?

i am older, i have been where you are.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-31-2009
Wed, 11-16-2011 - 5:05pm

back on 06 i too found out that my husband was involved with a woman he found on adultfriendfinder.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 11-12-2011 - 5:06pm

I"m so sorry this has happened to you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2011
Sat, 11-12-2011 - 12:18am

Well that didn't even last a week...

I know he has contacted one of them again, nothing "sexual" was discussed but that's not the point, I said and he agreed to no communication/contact and it means exactly that, nothing!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2011
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 8:03pm

It's been a couple of days and whilst it's good that it's out there I'm now left with the constant feeling of doubt/being anxious, has he really stopped communication with these people and no longer visiting these sites, etc.

I know this will all take time but it's horrible to keep feeling this way, I'm trying not to stress to much because of being pregnant but it's been hard not to.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 8:12am

That was a very brave thing you just did, Winter!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2008
Tue, 11-08-2011 - 6:08am

peace & strength to you

be very wary, do not believe half of what he tells you

just watch and learn

you are in control of the relationship now, you might as well demand anything you can think of that will possibly help you heal

it can take years if he can change so you have to be vigilant

best wishes to you and your family

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-06-2011
Mon, 11-07-2011 - 7:24pm

Thanks everyone

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