I made him angry..What? oh no he didnt!!

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Registered: 06-01-2009
I made him angry..What? oh no he didnt!!
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Mon, 03-22-2010 - 2:05pm

Sent email to my husband thanking him for not being in touch with the two woman he was texting daily several times a day.... He was texting his ex fiance and my friend 20 to 80 times daily.. So you can imagine the betrayl i felt.... He told me he texted them once a week, yeah right!!!!!!!!!!!


ANyway, sent him a nice email thanking for a great week..Also thanked him for not being in contact with these two womann.. Told him that it really hurt me to see the phone bill and how often he texted them. ANd than told him that it is okay because he is setting things right and I am feeling closer to him.... etc, etc..


And he writes back that he is pissed off for me bringing it up..Now mind you I was not bashing him, but on the contrary thanking him for doing the right thing now.....


Anyway, he is pissed off? Well maybe i am pissed off... I mean maybe I am pissed off that my husband was texting his exfiance daily behind my back, yes behind my backi because that is what you call it when you say you are doing it once a week but in

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-10-2009
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 2:19pm

Has he at any point taken responsibility for what he's done?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-01-2009
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 2:40pm

Hi..


He has stopped contact with the two woman..But he is still in denial that what he did is wrong...He thinks cause he stopped the contact that this should be enough..But I never got an apology for it...I only got "I was just catching up with them".. Oh really 20 to 100 times daily you needed to catch up with my friend and also your ex fiance????Hmmmmm.. I dont buy that story not one bit.. I would have to be deaf, blind and dumb to swallow that one...............


I am still here in this house. and I still love him..But boy has he got it all wrong...

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2008
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 3:47pm

So it's sort of damned if you do, damned if you don't with this man isn't it?


He hasn't taken responsibility and he won't because he doesn't think he's done anything wrong.




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Registered: 06-01-2009
Mon, 03-22-2010 - 6:54pm

Hi ..... Thankyou..


yes that is exactly it..He doesnt want me to bring it up at all because he hasnt dealt with it and doesnt want to deal with it...If I bring it up it reminds him of his own failures and he doesnt want to own up to those failures..


And he defianately is the type of person who needs their ego stroked....So weird because I am exactly the opposite. I dont need a million men or anyone telling me how great I am, I believe and trust in myself, period.....


Everyday I give myself the pep talk..I know the marriage is in shambles...I love the man, but I no longer have faith in him or this relationship.. I know there is a real possibility that I may have to live without him and I try and prepare for that all the time... Because there may come a point that i can not live with him no matter how much I love him...I mean who can have faith in a man who would go behind your back and text "YOUR" friend 80 to 100 times daily? I mean I am no fool, I know the deal and it was soooo wrong no matter how much he tried to lie to himself or me...And i even asked him about it when I had that gut feeling.. I said how often are you texting my friend