I packed more - He cried

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Registered: 01-03-2010
I packed more - He cried
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Fri, 02-19-2010 - 12:29am

How do I take this. I went to the house (we are separated) while

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Registered: 08-31-2009
Fri, 02-19-2010 - 1:19am

i am going to offer up two options.

i remember when i had had enough and had decided i was leaving, about 1 month after i found out. he cried, said he was so ashamed, then a week later after i decided NOT to leave i heard him on the phone basically 'laughing' at me for falling for his line of bs. as i stood there in the doorway listening him to him making fun of me for still caring i was demoralized. he insult to injury.

having said that, i want to remind you that the above is MY story, not yours. and this was MY husband i was talking about NOT YOURS. it is very possible that he was sincere in HIS tears, even though mine was not in his. i would not do a u turn at this point though. i am thinking he NEEDS to get off of the fence. this is not about only his life, BUT YOURS AS WELL. never forget that.

hanging tough is the hardest part about this whole journey. i know there are days where you just want to go back to the way things were. but hang tough. believe me, sticking to your guns will pay off FOR YOU. life will go on - the option is his - will he be accompanying you or not, it is his choice.

i am hoping that reality is sinking in, the thought of not having you in his life is really beginning to hit him, and finally the fog is lifting. oh my goodness, I COULD REALLY LOOSE HER.

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Registered: 07-02-2008
Fri, 02-19-2010 - 1:19am

Keep packing as long as he is on the fence. My H was similar to yours, he had melt downs when he started realizing I was beginning to move on, BUT he still was quietly fence sitting for months and months.


Stay strong and focused on YOU

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-19-2010 - 2:46pm
There's always hope but your H has a lot to do.
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Registered: 09-09-2008
Fri, 02-19-2010 - 11:09pm
That line "actions speak louder than words" is what I'd say to your scenario.

 

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Registered: 10-03-2009
Sat, 02-20-2010 - 11:35am
not so much as ignore but take it in stride, I suppose.
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Registered: 06-06-2007
Sat, 02-20-2010 - 10:27pm

myra,


once again my post is for you and i was glad to find you again.

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Registered: 01-03-2010
Sat, 02-20-2010 - 10:58pm

UPDATE--


This week was

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-21-2010 - 11:10am
Ironic that it's your H posting the restraining order against a man he cuckolded.
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Registered: 06-06-2007
Tue, 02-23-2010 - 11:16am

i agree with lily.

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Registered: 01-28-2010
Wed, 02-24-2010 - 8:43pm

wait till he hits bottom.... untill he breaks it off 100% and gets counseling..... either on his own or with you.


an affair is an addiction and addicts manipulate.... be very cautious....


i've learned not to hold on to these little things, it is a good sign, but you need more proof....


live your life, he will get so mad that you are living your life.... that happened to me.

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