I think I married a serial cheater

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Registered: 11-16-2004
I think I married a serial cheater
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Fri, 01-16-2009 - 9:20am

Last Tuesday was my one month wedding anniversary and I’m here already. I feel so ashamed and I’m not sure what to do. I’m embarrassed to admit that I caught him stepping out when we were dating, he broke down, cried, begged for forgiveness, promised to do anything it took to win me back. I guess I believed him because I wanted to believe him. We went to counseling and that really seemed to go great! We were communicating better and happier than we had ever been.


A few weeks before the wedding, I found a condom in his car. I asked him about why it would be in there and he told me that he had been trying to plan some “spontaneous fun” for us before the wedding. Almost immediately after the wedding he turned really mean – borderline abusive. He hasn’t struck me, it’s all verbal.


I found out yesterday morning that he’s seeing someone else again. This time I even know who she is. By the conversation that I found – miraculously – (because a few hours later he had deleted the whole trail, but I printed it for record!)

dreaming of becoming a mommy blinkie

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Registered: 11-16-2004
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 11:18am
I thought that I should probably mention that we had dated for 5 years before getting married. We're not super young and we didn't have a whirlwind romance.

dreaming of becoming a mommy blinkie

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Registered: 01-13-2009
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 11:50am

Saydar..I know how much it hurts. I once shot myself in the foot and that did not hurt as much as finding out my W was cheating on me.


Right now I do not know what the future holds for my family but I am sure of one..We will survive.


What do you want to do? Keep the marriage or move on. No one should be treated the we have...


Jack...

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 01-16-2009 - 3:49pm
My dear, there is no reason for you to feel ashamed and humiliated.