I took a HUGE STEP today

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Registered: 03-19-2008
I took a HUGE STEP today
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Tue, 01-13-2009 - 4:52pm

I called and made an appointment with my lawyer to begin divorce proceedings. I go this Thursday at 10am. I don't even know what came over me. Something did I was sitting at my desk and I just thought "screw this crap" he called yesterday and asked to sit down and talk and wants to work out a schedule to see the kids, he said he would call back last night. He never called back. Maybe that was the final straw for me, but anyway I got up the gumption to say "enough of his sh*t"

She put some fears had about custody/guardianship to rest and told me that even if he decided he wanted joint custody would any judge give it to him because its what he has now decided.

I'm not even as sad as I thought I would be. I'm sad for my kids and I'm sad for my stepkids but thats about it.

He's gonna get hit with divorce, resumtion of his trial and possibe loss of his drivers license all in one week LOL.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 01-15-2009 - 11:52am

Once again, thanks Val.

You asked what he is on trial for- He is on trial for voyeurism. It was scheduled for two days in November, and apparently some new evidence has been brought forward and it was held over until February 5/09. I am taking both articles that were printed about this to my lawyer this morning. As of today he is one c/support payment away from loosing his drivers license.

He dosent' have the ability to co-parent, and I'm not being ignorant about that, he truly dosen't.

I'm sad about having to file, but I also know its what I need to do in order to move on emotionally and otherwise.

Our written agreement that states have custody wont be changed that will remain the same. I am asking for frequent but short supervised visits as I see fit. I dont' want a schedule, he couldn't stick to the one we had last hear for the kids.

My little guy had a rought night last night he got up three times and came into my room and would say "mommy are you still here" He must have been dreaming, breaks my heart when they are afraid I am going to leave them like their dad did.

You know I can go out for a few hours and my kids cry, they dont cry when they are dropped off by their dad and dont' know when they will see him next. Thats very sad.

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