I'm supposed to be planning my wedding...:(

I am so sorry. I am in a similar situation, but 4 years after the wedding...finding porn and that my husband was on dating websites and eventually I found out he was having a 6 month affair. I am here to tell you, DO NOT take this information casually. If I had caught my husband doing these things before we were married I feel like we could have confronted them and he wouldn't have had an affair. You have to confront him and tell him it's not spam and it's not OK, you are not stupid!!! If he chooses to lie to you about it then I hate to say it, but he's probably lying about alot more and maybe he is not ready to be in a committed relationship. If he comes clean and admits he looks at porn and has maybe contacted a few girls then talk through it, draw your boundaries with him...i.e. it's OK to look at porn, but not to contact anyone or whatever you are comfortable with. This is your future. I have a 1 year old with the man who cheated on me and it's been the roughest time of my life trying to repair the damage from his affair so please for your sake don't just brush this off, he needs to know now before you are standing at the alter that you deserve 100% honesty and a full commitment to him and if he's made mistakes then you can deal with that, but honesty has to be there. I wish you the best of luck and I am sorry you are having to deal with this.