The Insurance Policy

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The Insurance Policy
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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 4:59pm

I got to thinking yesterday after I posted to

"Hope is not the conviction that something will turn out well but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out."
-- Vaclav Havel
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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 5:27pm
I agree completely with the part about saying,"This is how it is going to be" . YOu have to have a lot of confidence to
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Tue, 08-04-2009 - 5:28pm

Your post has given me so much hope, I imagined you on top of a soap box addressing us betrayed ladies :).

Margie

 
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Wed, 08-05-2009 - 12:56am

"I quirked an eyebrow and told him we were done. DONE. End of sentence, end of marriage, the END."

Ooof! Yeah, I was her insurance policy. She told the other man the morning after their first night that she was not leaving me. Then proceded to have a seven week affair with him. I think we both had our wake up calls. But you are right. We both have had our last chance. It's do it or don't from here. She's still dragging, but I just spent the last year doing pushups every morning and chanting the mans name as I do those last frew. I consumed my mind with hate and really pushed myself, now that I've forgiven them, I still picture him once I get to those last few and picture him sitting on a couch watching tv while I'm still dropping weight and feeling and looking better.

I donated 15 inches of my hair to Locks of Love in April yet now my daughters are just able to braid my hair again. If she's ready at anytime to find someone else. I'm ready also.

Thomas

5 kids ages 16-10, D Day: August, 2008

What's I'm doing to rebuild: Therapy, Books, Exercise, Forgiveness.

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Wed, 08-05-2009 - 12:59pm

Denise,

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Wed, 08-05-2009 - 2:00pm

The remorse thing makes a world of difference. The first time, my H was beside himself with remorse, and he did all the right things (though not as quickly as I wanted). He cut off contact with her, quit his job (she was a coworker) and really tried to repair the damage he did.


This time when it happened, it was apparently all my fault, I wasn't seeing to his needs (our sex life never faltered),

"Hope is not the conviction that something will turn out well but the certainty that something makes sense, regardless of how it turns out."
-- Vaclav Havel
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Wed, 08-05-2009 - 5:01pm

Hi sofar,

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Fri, 08-07-2009 - 8:17am
Denise makes many great points as usual.
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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 12:25pm

if i give you my address can you put some of what you've got into a bottle and send it to me OVERNIGHT EXPRESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

great post

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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 2:55pm
GREAT POST, All who are facing dday#2 need to pay attention the these wise words.
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Mon, 08-10-2009 - 7:14pm
You already have it - you just need to use it!!