Just found out dh is gay...

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Registered: 06-28-2006
Just found out dh is gay...
Mon, 05-02-2011 - 6:11pm

This is going to be a very long post, just to forwarn you.


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Registered: 10-12-2006
Fri, 10-28-2011 - 10:18pm

I am in a similar situation.. what is the update on yours?

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Registered: 08-03-2011
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 7:38am

Sometimes I wonder, because I have found my husband looking at men from the head to toe type of look, however I have found him cheating with varios woman, so i stumbked on this site as well in agoney, havent been able to sleep for months now, I am barely getting better because I decided to move on, even if it hurts throught the process I feel alittle bit more relieved every day. I am returning very slowly to whom I was before I met him.

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Registered: 07-25-2011
Mon, 07-25-2011 - 11:59pm
I know exactly what you are going through. I just found my husbands adam4adam profile today and tried his 'usual' password. Oh. My. God. He's been on line, chatting, arranging 'dates' with 'friends' and worse - it's been going on for years, on and off, through our 10 year marriage. we have 2 children - 9 and 7, run a business and live in a very remote part of the country. I am so lost and alone.

I confronted him today - told him that I knew, but didn't get into specifics about how. He denied it, then of course had to admit it. But, in retrospect, so many of his actions now make sense....For years, I thought it was me not being 'wifely' or 'motherly' or whatever....

I am so confused and am seeing an attorney tomorrow to start our divorce. My life is falling apart and I just stumbled upon your post while trying to make sense of what's going on in my life.

Good luck to you & know you are not alone and it is NOT YOUR FAULT.
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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 05-03-2011 - 9:10am

Hi Sam,

I wish I we had a board for this!