Just found out a few days ago

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-16-2006
Just found out a few days ago
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Thu, 04-16-2009 - 11:12am

Hello, Im new here and honestly thought I would never be here. I found out on Sunday that my husband was in the middle of an affair(they reconnected on Facebook and then she actually moved from Texas to Florida to be close to my husband!)


He has said he choses me and our family(we have a 5yr old daughter) and wants to do all he can to make the marriage work... OK, how do you trust anything that this person says? He was seeing her right under our noses.. having sex with her at the same time he was having sex with me! Yes,

beach siggy www.youravon.com/mollie
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2006
Thu, 04-16-2009 - 11:55am
(((HUGS))) and I'm so sorry you're going through this. He probably is blaming you because it's easier to blame you than to take responsibility for his own actions, and while

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-08-2008
Thu, 04-16-2009 - 12:13pm

please don't beat yourself up over this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 04-16-2009 - 1:12pm
Even if something is "broken" in the marriage, a husband owes the wife the respect and common courtesy of discussing it with her first before unzipping his pants for someone else.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2006
Thu, 04-16-2009 - 3:18pm
Yep, that's exactly my point - I think he could have and should have come to her first, so it's not right for him to blame her, and neither should she blame herself.

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