Just found out partner is addicted to phone chat lines
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|Fri, 06-10-2011 - 10:47am|
Two days ago, I found a very questionable email in my partner's inbox. I was in his email to work on a calendar for our upcoming custody court case with his ex wife. The emails said him: I'll be waiting..... Her: what time should I come over? Him: 11 Her: unless you chicken out lol, should I bring drinks
So there it started, me wondering what was going on. I got his cell bill yesterday (it is in my name), and I was going over phone numbers to see who he is calling, one number kept coming up. So I did a reverse lookup up, a phone chat matchmaker line. What the F? OMG. I just reviewed phone bills, this has been going on since September, 2 different chat lines, calls 60 - 90 mins sometimes. All times I am at work or have been out. I confronted him, and he said the whole it is not what it looks like, I would never cheat on you etc. I don't think he thinks of it as cheating, yeah he probably has never had a face to face hook up, but he has been having phone sex with other women....
It is unbelievable. We have a great life together. We have a beautiful house, his awesome 6yr son and 3 amazing dogs (our joy). We are relatively debt free, and have a great life. We are going to Disney as a family vacation in a month. It just amazes me that he is doing this. I am so mad at him right now but think he really has a problem.
The worst part for me right now, is we are going to court seeking full custody of his son (long story). We have a very good chance of winning, however the big part of that equation is ME. If we split up, he would lose custody and his ex is moving away and would take her son with her. He works shift work and would not be able to be a full time Dad with out support.
I don't trust him right now,and I don't know what I should do. I don't know if I can continue just for the sake of my step son. He so has a problem and I can't help him. I have supported him through rough times (work and the ex)