For the kids?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-08-2006
For the kids?
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Sun, 04-26-2009 - 12:29pm
I'm new here unfortunetly. I found out about my husbands affair on New Years Day. He'd been flirting/going on dates with this girl from work and then they slept together. They were together for months. (I think probably more- but he admits to a few months.)

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: to_seek
Sun, 04-26-2009 - 6:51pm
The question, to me is, can they get over it if you stay in this life?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-11-2009
In reply to: to_seek
Sun, 04-26-2009 - 6:54pm

Kids are better with happy parents who are SEPARATED/DIVORCE than those who stay married and are miserable. Children are not

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2009
In reply to: to_seek
Sun, 04-26-2009 - 10:10pm
IMO if you stay in a bad marriage because of kids you're teaching them how to one day have their own bad marriages.

"If something cannot go on forever, it will stop."  Herb Stein

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
In reply to: to_seek
Mon, 04-27-2009 - 12:13am
Kids soak up EVERYTHING in their environment, they are

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2007
In reply to: to_seek
Mon, 04-27-2009 - 2:21am

Hi there to_seek,


My situation was similar - betrayed with two very small children in the house. If you are unhappy, and you really want to go, then you should go. You are right, the kids deserve better, and you do, too, and it is by no means selfish to want and anticipate that for yourself.


Your kids know when you're not happy. As the others here have commented, they see so much more than we think they do. Some of the