knowledge of yahoo conversations?

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Registered: 06-07-2007
knowledge of yahoo conversations?
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Wed, 07-25-2012 - 7:35am

Hello,

Just a question about “yahoo conversations”.  My bf is a contractor and he entrusted me with his email account as he is too busy to email his clientele.  I check his email daily and talk to his clients.  I was checking his email and checked the “conversations” area, where I found all these “ IM” type conversations, all in sexual manner.  It seemed to be one conversation and no response from him. 

One conversation was like, “sup,you actually love to chit chat? i'll be going somewhere in a little while but add me as a friend because i want to get caught up”

My friends said this is spam because he is going on porn and that it is sent to him even when he is not online.  I asked him if he has been on porn and told him we received an email stating something like welcome to “such and such” porn site. 

He said he does go on porn but has not been on it for a while.  The last yahoo conversation was Friday nite at aroung 8pm while he was at his house claiming to be cleaning before coming over my house!!

I do not know anything about yahoo conversation…I do not want to say anything right now as to start a big fight.  Is it possible it is just spam that he is receiving without being on the computer? Or is he doing things that cause this spam to go to his email/conversation box?  

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Registered: 02-05-2012
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 7:57am

Rest easy, its just spam! same thing pops up on my husbands and my yahoo account. The spam can come from several different sites not just XXX sites. I get messages from all kinds of people, looking to chat/sell something. I got a conversation last week talking about buying a car, then this week another message about adding someone so we could chat. My Husband gets the same messages. You can check to see if he is responding by opening up his yahoo messenger, but it's most likely just spam. You can also look into his online contacts this will give you all the names of his contacts. It freaked me out at first too until I realized I was getting the same messages, plus a lot of the messages we both recieve are times when we are together. Most likely no need to worry. Hope this helps!!!!

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Registered: 06-07-2007
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 9:14am

Thanks for the reply.  I have a few more questions...Is it possible he recieves these messages when not online? or do they come only when he is online? and what are the steps to log into his messenger?

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 10:28am
Yes, that's spam. I have gotten those myself from random people. Now, I have my Yahoo messenger set to only allow people on my contact list to IM me.

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 11:52am
I know i keep getting daily yahoo messenger pop ups from random people I don't know or have in my contact list that want to chat with me when I go into my yahoo mail. I've checked to block people that are not in my contact list but they still keep popping up. Thinking of switching to g mail or something cause it's getting to be a real pain to x them out all the time when I'm trying to read my mail.
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Registered: 06-07-2007
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 2:17pm
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Thanks for the replies.  These are not just pop-ups, they are listed in his yahoo conversation folder.  There is one message from these pp without any replies from him.  I have seen copies of IMs before which listed a book long of conversations, but this is not like that.  On the topof the conversation it reads, Participants: then lists his email address in a little box and the other person's address in a little box....

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 3:56pm
okay so i just looked in my yahoo mail in the conversations and there is a new one in there advertisng an adult facebook website and a link to join. I never looked this up or talked to anyone from there so it must be spam.
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Registered: 10-26-2010
Wed, 07-25-2012 - 11:31pm
If he opened up his email and didn't see or read an offline message or popup sent through instant messaging, it goes directly into the conversation box and is saved there. I use yahoo messenger all the time and yes, messages are received if he is not online, they are called offline messages and yes, these can be pop-up messages. If your bf had something hide, he would not have given you his password.
~Sunny~
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Registered: 06-07-2007
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 7:11am

Thank you for all of your replies.  I feel much better now.  I am glad I can count on my fellow BS's (If you do not know me I divorced my x about 2 1/2 years ago) on this great board.  Thanks again and God Bless  :smileyhappy:

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 9:44pm

Well, we're a suspicious bunch here, with good reason.  But I do have to agree that I also get crap e-mails I did nothing to encourage, all you have to do is use any e-mail site to order ANYTHING on the internet - with some all you have to do is USE the site - and I KNOW those companies promising to never sell or share your info do exactly that.  It collects like dust bunnies and can start totally innocently - I definitely never did a thing to start getting e-mails to buy Viagra.  If you check this out, you may find really bizarre e-mail captions - they try to get around you blocking them by changing their name or caption each time around.  The caption might read soemthing like vIagRA CHeAp canADa PhARMaCY, they get creative to prevent blocking more messages, and once they start or once you reply, it doesn't stop.  I'd stop opening things for that reason, unless you have some proof he's up to no good.  No one ever knows with 100% certainty about this stuff, of course, but I wouldn't be adding 2 + 2 because on this board it's really easy to come up with 5.  MOST of my crap e-mails are there when I first open it up for the day, I definitely was not online when they came in.  As far as porn goes, many guys go to those sites and I learned something my DH swore is the truth.  If you open up one of the porn sites, as you try to leave, basically they won't LET you do that.  What they will do is flash grubbier and nastier porn stuff at you, basically trying to find your level of filth so you will pay for the next crap they hope you'll cave in to see.  Meaning....lots of entries can show up in your "history" function, making it look like you spent days looking at porn when maybe you didn't at all - maybe you were really trying to just exit the stupid site.  My DH was right about this because I tried it myself!