The lackey (or nonlackey thereof) thanks you all!!!!

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The lackey (or nonlackey thereof) thanks you all!!!!
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Sun, 01-12-2014 - 10:40am

I posted this on the lackey post but wanted to make sure you all recieved my appreciation.  Thank you Musiclover12, Sissyjacks and everyone else who has been here for me during this.  Thank you, gwtwfanaliveagain, as you were also there during my m with xws and helped me thru my pain (I love your responses about XH by the way…too funny!!!!)

I am doing surprisingly good.  I have blocked BF on my cell phone. I do not have anything to do with him.  I saw him the other day going into the convenience store and I drove by and did not even look his way.   Every time I look at a pic of him I get disgusted.  He is dead to me as far as I am concerned. 

At this time the only thing I miss is the friendship we had and the times we had with the kids.  He had been distancing himself since around October (Claimed he was distraught over his dead sons when in reality he was on a dating website..what a scumbag!!!!) So the kids have not even asked about him.   I am done with him and never want to see him again. 

And lastly thank you lisachilene.  You support means a lot to me.  I could not have been able to get thru this without the wonderful support from my family and friends and the support from all of you at Ivillage. 

 I am free;  I am no longer his lackey.

I actually got asked out by a friend of a friend so I am going on a date in a few weeks..nothing serious, just go out and have a good time…We are going on a triple date…AND…another friend of one of my male friends called him and asked if he could call me for a date…hasn’t called me yet but I am in no rush anyway…

Thank you again and God Bless all of you….One of these days if we are all in the area we need to meet for dinner and drinks!!!  J

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Registered: 06-17-2010

Christy, 

I'm so glad you posted to let us know how you are.  I still often think of some women and men who posted here and wonder how they are doing.  There are a couple of them who's stories still tug at my heart~a couple of ladies a few years back who were pregnant, one 9 mos along, who were betrayed and then abandoned. I think of them often, all of them, all of us and pray for those we never hear back from, because that's all I can do now to help and wish them all the best. So thank you for letting us know! :)

And on a happier note....Well, aren't YOU just the belle of the ball????? YAY!!!! :)  You are living proof that even when someone tries to hold you back, betrays you, and is well, let's face it, is just a total DORKFISH that there IS a better life out there. There ARE men who will appreciate what a terrific person you are and that feel fortunate that they 'might' have a chance with you now! You GO, GIRLFRIEND!!!!! I'M PROUD OF YOU!  You've lived, no, SURVIVED, being betrayed twice and said Hell NO and got right back up and went on with life.  You're a strong, smart, beautiful woman. You know it, we know it and evidently, so does half the men in your town!!!!! Old Liverspot is gonna be crying in his Geritol when he finds out all this and believe me, he'll find out all the dates and fun you're having. I won't send him a box of Kleenex and your XH, the clubbing lawyer security guard, isn't getting any band aids from me, either. Oh! Maybe they'll end up at the same club, get drunkier than Cooty Brown and wind up going home with each other. Ha! I'm mean and evil, but that's half of my charm! LOL

How I wish we all could get together sometime. Wouldn't that be terrific? I still long for our cul de sac that we all use to talk of and dream of, just like Wisteria Lane....only we'd call it Winchester Lane.  I remember our CL at the time (how I wish I could remember her name, she was a darling) voted in Billy Idol as pool boy. I wanted Sam Elliot for gardener but I've changed my mind...now I want Jake Owen (he's a country singer my daughter tells me, never heard him but I've SEEN him and that's good enough for me! ) lol 

You know, there's so much wrong in the world, so much hurt, horrid stories on the news but the women and men on this board are proof that there IS good in people, that people DO still care and that love for your fellow participants in this thing called life really can conquer all.  God knows what He's doing and knows where to direct us when we need help. This board is certainly one of the biggest blessings He's ever led me to.

Wishing you the best and let us know how all those dates go!!! :)  GW

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Christy,  Our CL back then was Solazzo.  I went back in the posts and found her name. She hasn't posted for a long time. So, Solazzo, if you do happen to see this, thank you for all the help you gave so many of us. I hope your life is nothing but fantastic! I'd love to talk to you as there is a lady here in my town who looks just like you. She is from a state near the Canadian border. GW

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Registered: 06-07-2007

Thanx GW…Every day I am out of sight of him the better and more angrier I get.  Liverspot’s (Love that name by the way!) contractor business is in the same area that I work in so I go out of my way to avoid him and not be in the same areas at the same times he may be there. 

To Remdamma: I agree with you about his family situation.  His brother just got arrested for domestic violence. 

His other brother just got dumped by his fiancé on NYE…I don’t know much but she was spouting on facebook about trust and how she is too good to be in a relationship without it.  The Brother is crying on facebook saying he did nothing wrong and is being falsly accused??? (When I was ending it with BF he said, “My bro is going thu the same thing with a bit$$& like you.  He kicked her to the curb!”) When I told him that he is wrong and correctly told him what is being posted on facebook, he said “”I know nothing about what is going on with them!!” (No sh*&!!!)

His sis is posting how lonely she is, how she can’t take her life anymore and how she needs a good man in her life to make her dreams come true..Really??? So you can cheat on him, too?????  So, Remdamma, I do not wish to be a part of this family!!!!

Gotta love that facebook…Gets these ppl every time.  Just like when OW was posting on facebook about her excursions with XH…But of course his response was always, “I haven’t seen that woman in years!!!” What a crock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Also thank you Safire1023 and Peaceyma…And no, musiclover, I don’t want to spend my life checking up on him..Like I said before he is dead to me…I do not know why sis set up this profile for him while we were together nor do I care at this point….

My blind date is coming up in a few weeks. Kinda nervous…Also the guy I told ya’ll about (His name is Steve) is supposed to be calling me.  He is a friend in my circle of friends and has said he has interest in me.  He is in construction too; but he is in excavating as BF was building houses and such…They do not work in the same area and Steve does not like him as he told me that when we all went to dinner once BF was giving everyone at our table dirty looks and told them that they were alcoholics when I left to use the ladies’ room!!!!  (I guess in the real world it’s not ok to drink but it’s ok to cheat???)

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Registered: 06-17-2010

Christy,

 Be sure and let us know how the dates go. So the XBF (aka Liverspot, and I don't mean that I wish him ill will, I hope his biopsy is ok, but that's God's dept., not mine :) Anyway...so the XBF accused others of being alcoholics? That's rich!  Like you said, having a drink makes you an alcoholic but cheating is ok?  This joker isn't playing with a full deck.

I hope he is by now thinking "Christy ran my rentals business, she knows all my account numbers and contact numbers. She could ruin me!"  Of course, I know you wouldn't do that, but he doesn't, does he???? lol