LIED TO FRO 20 YEARS

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Registered: 01-26-2010
LIED TO FRO 20 YEARS
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Tue, 01-26-2010 - 9:22pm
ABOUT 12 YEARS AGO I CAUGHT MY HUSBAND CHATTING WITH WOMEN ON THE INTERNET.HE TOLD ME HE DIDNT KNOW WHY HE DID IT HE THOUGHT HE DIDNT WANT TO BE MARRIED ANYMORE HE DIDNT THINK HE WAS DOING ANYTHING WRONG EVEN THOUGH HIM AND THIS WOMAN WERE TELLING EACH OTHER THEY LOVED ONE ANOTHER. WE WORKED THINGS OUT.STARTED GETTING ALONG BETTER THEN ABOUT 2 YEARS AGO HE WAS HIDING NASTY PICTURE TEXT MESSAGES HE GOT FROM A WOMAN AT WORK. HE SAID IT WAS NO BIG DEAL I TOLD HIM DONT HID STUFF FROM ME I ASK HIM FLAT OUT WAS THERE ANYTHING ELSE HE WAS HIDING HE SAID NO. THIS PAST SEPTEMBER HE GOT A MESSAGE ON HIS FACEBOOK PAGE SAYING HEY DO YOU REMEMBER ME THIS IS THE MOTHER OF YOUR DAUGHTER. I QUESTIONED HIM HE SAID YEAH I DONT KNOW IF THE CHILD WAS MINE OR NOT THIS KID IS 23 NEVER TOLD ME THERE WAS A POSSIBILITY HE WOULD BE GETTING A MESSAGE ONE DAY FROM SOMEONE I HAVE BEEN WITH HIM FOR 20 YEARS. WELL HE SAW PICTURES OF THIS KID CRIED HIS EYES OUT SAID YEAH SHES MINE. I TOLD HIM GET THE KIDS INFO OFF THIS WOMAN AND JUST TALK TO THE DAUGHTER. THEN I FIND OUT HES TALKING TO THE MOTHER BEHIND MY BACK I FOUND OUT SHE SAID SHE WANTED TO CONTACT HIM FOR HER NOT THE KID TOLD HIM SHE STILL LOVES HIM HE TOLD HER HE WAS NOT HAPPY IN HIS MARRIAGE.HE TOLD ME HE WAS JUST PLAYING A GAME WITH HER SO HE COULD GET TO KNOW HIS KID.WE FOUGHT LIKE CRAZY ABOUT EVERYTHING.I TOLD HIM EVERYTHING THAT WAS BUGGING ME LIKE HE NVER WANTS TO HAVE SEX ANYMORE IF I SIT IN THE LIVING ROOM TO WATCH TV HE LEAVES THE ROOM WHEN HE COMES HOME FROM WORK HE JUST IGNORES ME AND HIS KIDS.I ASK IF HE WASNT CLOSE TO OUR KIDS BECAUSE HE NEVER GOT TO KNOW THIS GIRL HE SAID I DONT KNOW.HE DOES HAVE ANOTHER DAUGHTER I KNOW ABOUT HER I TALK TO HER EVERYDAY BUT HE NEVER CALLS HER I HAVE TO PUSH HIM TO GO SEE HER SHE IS 22.BUT HE DID EVERYTHING IN HIS POWER ON HIS OWN TO CONTACT THIS LITTLE GIRL HE HASNT SEEN OR HEARD FROM IN 23 YEARS.I ASK HIM WHY HE DOES WHAT HE DOES HE SAID NOTHING IS FUN ANYMORE HES NOT IN LOVE WITH ME AS MUCH AS BEFORE. I TOLD HIM OK LETS WORK ON THINGS. THEN I FIND OUT HE WAS GETTING TEXT MESSAGES FROM THIS WOMAN FOR ABOUT A WEEK HIDING FROM ME AGAIN SHE TOLD HIM THAT THEIR DAUGHTER DIED OF A DRUG OVERDOSE JAN 10TH. I ASK AGAIN WHY THE HELL DIDNT YOU TELL ME SOONER WE COULD HAVE WENT TO THE FUNERAL HIS RESPONSE AGAIN WAS I DONT KNOW. I WENT WITH HIM TO THE GRAVE. DROVE 600 MILES TO HELP HIM GET CLOSER. HE LOOKS AT HER OBITUARY ON THE NET EVERYDAY.I DONT KNOW IF HE DIDNT WANT TO GO TO THE FUNERAL HOME BECAUSE HE WAS STILL IN LOVE WITH THIS GIRLS MOTHER OR WHAT. TO ME HES ACTING LIKE NOTHING HAPPENED HE HAS DONE NOTHING WRONG I SHOULD JUST SHUT UP. IM ABOUT READY TO JUST GIVE UP I NEVER KNOW IF HES LYING OR NOT I REALLY DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO.
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Registered: 01-26-2010
Tue, 01-26-2010 - 10:18pm
Im sorry your in so much pain.