I want to thank everyone for their advice. We are still working on making our marriage work. I think we will survive this. I just don't want to be a hall monitor for the rest of my life. I don't want to have to check cell phone bills . Not that he'd use that to call anyone he doesn't want me to know about...now. He started a new job away from his OW, this week. And I think that will help alot. My only issue is with this job, the hours vary and I find myself questioning where he is or what he is doing, when he isn't at work. I truly don't believe he would start up a relationship with a stranger and that the OW took advantage of a weak marriage, when hers failed. If I wasn't good enough before am I going to be good enough now?
Thank you for sharing your story. I hope we both can find peace again.