Male betrayed by his wife

Jmond

Welcome to the board. Please feel free.to seek your support here.
Unfortunately it takes a very VERY long time to heal. I am 15 months out and I am just now betting to having more good days than bad.
but I also think your healing time is dependent on how ur.spouse acts. Betrayal is just like a death. You will have multiple reactions. Sometimes in the same day. but it will take a while your brain

Welcome, You definitely came to the right place everybody here is so helpful and can relate in different ways. I have been married for 8 yrs and my husband had an emotional affair with a customer, it would have been physical if she would have allowed it. For me I went through really rough patches and then I would feel some what ok and then something would trigger me and I would feel horrible all over again. What helped me was a book called Not Just Friends by Dr. Glass. You need to find out why it happened in the first place which is hard and sometimes a third party or counselor is needed. In my situation my husband has self esteem issues and was unemployed for a time which made his self esteem get even worse. Also our marriage had issues or I guess still does but it is getting better. Maybe your wife liked the attention and one thing led another. What is weird is I think it saved our marriage it was a wake up call and I was ignoring all of our issues. We went to counseling but I still have issues with trust but it is getting better. I wish you all of the luck in the hard road ahead, just know you are not alone. I personally hated the sleepless nights my mind would run wild.