mixed signals? possible affair? wdid?
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|Thu, 06-24-2010 - 12:51pm|
After finding a questionable conversation my dh had with a girl, I did some more snooping. I am just trying to make sense of all these mixed signals and figure out what I should do.
What I found:
Pictures of him, naked, sent to girls
Pictures of girls naked.
Messages responding to a personal ad he must have put up.
Messages responding to the responses, but no actual plans made or messages stating anything had happened yet.
Lots of text messages the same night he re-connected with an old friend. (Through our cell website - I can't read what they said, just that they were sent/received)
A message saying that he doesn't enjoy sex with me anymore, that I'm not doing anything wrong and that I don't want a divorce.
What he is doing and saying to me:
Says I love you and kisses me almost daily.
Texts that he loves me (not only in response to me)
Just gave me a card saying what a wonderful wife and mother I was, that I was beautiful and he hopes he can be there for me like I have been for him (he has been having health issues)
Bought me an expensive diamond necklace (the only nice jewelry I've ever gotten from him)
When I said I missed spending time with him he says we should spend more time together and actually spent more time with me.
Talks about future plans together.
What am I supposed to make of this??? I would appreciate advice... and please be blunt and say whatever you think. I'm just not sure what to do or how to handle this. I'm afraid of handling it wrong and it all blowing up. I am willing to forgive him and work through this.