My story. What to do now?

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Registered: 07-25-2011
My story. What to do now?
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Mon, 07-25-2011 - 9:14am

I'm so confused right now. I can't even think straight. Me and my husband have been married a year and we've been together three years. I'm almost 7 months pregnant and last week I discovered my husband Has been keeping secrets from me. This isn't The first time either. Before We were married I caught him texting and e-mailing other women. He denied it then, saying that someone else had borrowed his phone because The guy didn't want his girlfriend to know. So I talked to The guy in question and He admitted to everything (of course I wouldn't have put it past him from The start. He was just that kind of person) Then I heard rumors of my boyfriend (now husband) visiting a whore house (We are both military and were in Japan at The time) He denied this as well. He also was on The night shift (We worked in The same office) and a friend of mine who was on The night shift with him told me that my boyfriend was making calls to his ex girlfriend (once again in Japan. Their night is our day) and I didn't believe The guy because He was trying to sleep with me. (Military men are perverts! Most have no standards!!!)

I would constantly break up with him (even before all this started) because I was scared that I was going to get hurt (because I had from a previous relationship). I Found out after being with him for almost a year that I had a STD (lucky for me it could be cured with a drink and a shot to The butt) but I wasn't sure if I had gotten it from him Or if I had given it to him (because The last person I was with before him started bleeding and convinced me it was due to improper cleaning) We both decided to drop this whole matter.

The day We were married I panicked and started a fight because I was scared that this would continue but instead I decided to marry him anyway. (because over all He Has a good heart) around two months after I found a conversation on Skype between him and a girl. They were using a webcam but still typing (I didn't get it but lucky for me) There was Some flirting involved and She asked him about his wedding ring and He said "it was fake, just something to keep The girls away." When I asked him about it He said it was old, before We were married (because He wore a cheap ring while We were engaged) but in The conversation The girl asked "when Will you be mine" and He told her The date We were leaving Japan. (because We got orders) when I asked him about this He said it was all a joke and wrote The girl a message saying not to contact him anymore because his wife didn't like how they joked around.

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Registered: 06-03-2008
Mon, 07-25-2011 - 4:25pm

You ask a lot of valid questions and you have many valid concerns.




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Registered: 07-25-2011
Thu, 07-28-2011 - 8:28pm

Thanks for your reply. You're absolutely right. We start counseling next weds so I pray that all goes well and that this is the last time.

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Registered: 08-03-2011
Wed, 08-03-2011 - 7:19am

I am in the same situation, he was so convincing when I found all types of evidence, such as condoms, and presents in the car , stating that that was his employees stuff, when I know he had a driver that did use his car, and just as an example, so