My suspicions were confirmed

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Registered: 04-26-2012
My suspicions were confirmed
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 3:19am

My heart is in pieces.

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Registered: 04-20-2012
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 11:24am

I am so sorry and I know it hurts, even physically.

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Registered: 01-26-2005
Thu, 04-26-2012 - 7:08pm
I am so sorry. I am only six days into my mess (read "30 weeks pregnant" below. I completely get the complexity of wanting to tear him to shreds and at the same time curl up next to him and let him hold me. Its awful. In my case, there WAS a physical relationship, and I was unfortunately enough to find the pictures of the whole dang affair. We went to counseling yesterday and our therapist said, ABSOLUTELY you can work through these things and come out strong, but both parties have to whole-heartedly want it. My husband has been doing everything in his power to reassure me and show remorse. Being just two months shy of delivering our fourth child, I'm not making any permanent decisions just yet, but he's making all the effort I could expect from him at this point. See what your husband does with this...he'll have to take the intitiative to make you feel like you can trust him again, and you need to let him know, however you may have to, that this is NOT going to happen again. If you need to take a few days away to show him you are serious, do that.
In my case, I was so devastated, I left the house because I couldnt face him and my children in the same home. They have no idea, and I want to keep it that way. I went to my parents (who are gone for the month( and just processed what was happening.
Good luck to you...this is the suckiest feeling EVER.