need help from all the 'detectives'

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-09-2009
need help from all the 'detectives'
Sat, 02-21-2009 - 10:06am

Hi all!

I have a ?? about trying to fill in all those glaring gaps in my WH story. He claims he has now told me EVERYTHING-but we all know how that goes. i have tried every approach possible, but to no avail.

One of the gaps still needing to be filled is about a suspect # on his phone records. He claims it is a couple he met while going out alone (I already know about 2 OW at same time) but if it was innocent I think he would have told me right after i found out about OW 1 to let me know he wasn't seeing her as much as i originally thought.

Anyway, I am at a breaking point--the # no longer accepts calls. I know where the woman in the couple "supposedly" works (I kinda believe this b/c the phone is registered to the manager of that restaurant). I am calling today to ask for the name he gave me (if it's the right name).

If I do get ahold of her on the phone--what do I say or ask to get the best answers possible? Do I simply ask how she knows "WH", do I say I am his wife, do I play dumb and say something else? Need help!! I am probably calling within the next few hours--I just don't want to blow my one chance at finding the truth!!


iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2008
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 1:49am
Sorry to say it but can you really believe anything the OW says. They are not honest people for the most part. I thought of talking to the OW but realized her main goal was keeping my H at all costs even if she had to be the dirty little secret the rest of her life.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-09-2008
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 2:27am
You need to keep in mind she is the OW, which already speaks very badly of her.


iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 12:39pm
Call from a pay phone or block your number - then give her a fake name and tell her your H has applied for a job/loan/whatever and listed her as a reference.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-09-2009
Sun, 02-22-2009 - 6:20pm

I know there is nothing going on w/anyone since i found out about girl #1.

the phone # is disconnected.

I would go, not to talk to potential OW (i'm not sure if this # is really OW or the couple he refers to) but to talk to bartenders,wait staff, employer,etc

reverse lookup on the number is registered to someone else