Need Help - Don't Know What to Do

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2011
Need Help - Don't Know What to Do
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Thu, 11-17-2011 - 3:58pm

I had originally posted on the relationship saver board but since then have found out my husband has been cheating.

We have been married 14 years - 2 kids - we have had a lot of financial and job stresses in our lives the past few years.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 9:40am

LOL Peace, you know me well, Sista!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-10-2011
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 11:00am

I'm having a really tough day.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 2:42pm

nope, I haven't peace;)

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 2:54pm

Sadinia,

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 11:36pm

Sadinia,

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sat, 11-19-2011 - 11:59pm
Wow I didn't even know one could get alimony for life. Are you sure you weren't related to that judge. LOL So hows everything going for you now gwtw? Still got the BF?
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 12:06am
I think women in those days put up with a lot more due to the stigma on divorce. I know my MIL put up with it for almost 3 decades, until he finally ran off with one of his half his age hoes. He got his in the end though when his hoe left him for another man and with 2 little kids in his 50's : )
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 9:41am

One can and this one did. LOL

No, I'm not related to the judge. I just was very prepared in court, had all documentation, deeds, records, titles, etc.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-17-2010
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 9:50am

And that is just more living proof that you do indeed reap what you sow!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-16-2008
Sun, 11-20-2011 - 12:49pm

Their mother left him for a guy her age when they were like 2 and 4. She decided she could not handle motherhood and responsibility. He actually took the kids and tried to get back with my MIL after his young hoe left him (so she could help him raise his and the hoes kids) By then though MIL had a BF and said NO. But he soon found another woman that did help him raise those kids. Unfortunately he ended up having a major stroke when the kids were like 9 and 11 and dying. Their mother NEVER contacted them again after she left them years ago. So the boys ended up being raised by another family member in the end. Ended up in and out of jail. Sad story cause the kids were the ones that suffered for the irresponsible behavior of their parents in the end. Like my MIL always said after they got divorced. " He lived withe the consequences of thinking with the wrong head for many years"