My husband and I have been together for 19 years.
For whatever my 2 cents is worth (and with the state of my M who knows if it is worth that much) BUT.... I agree with Ollie in that he needs to go. If he is walking out then close the door behind him.
I am feeling really lousy today. I just want to curl up in a ball.
I got mad at my H today.
Hugs to you Hurtinmr. I know the initial shock and the massive head games it plays.