new to this board, unfortunately

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Registered: 04-14-2009
new to this board, unfortunately
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 12:22pm

Well, found out that hubby cheated on me last monday...i am trying to forgive him since we have a 22 month old and a 6 WEEK old together...and my 11 yr old girl from my previous marriage.

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Registered: 02-10-2009
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 2:46pm

My best advice is to get him into therapy ASAP! Tell him no marriage unless there's a commitment to therapy. My H went but didn't continue and he had a relapse affair. This is very common, be forewarned! That is why being totally committed to therapy for him is so important. The affair is like an addiction. I wish I had known this. Get some support in a good therapist for yourself as well. This is so important especially b/c you have a newborn and your hormones are probably all over the place.

He needs a real reality check so be firm in your demands. He needs to understand that there is something in him , some unhappiness, that is causing him to do this. My H's. therapist said it's good for him to see your pain to develop empathy. I am sorry for you- good luck.

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Registered: 03-22-2009
Tue, 04-14-2009 - 5:59pm


I'm trying to work some things out with my