New here and need some advice

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Registered: 02-27-2012
New here and need some advice
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Mon, 02-27-2012 - 12:51pm

Hello!

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 3:12pm

Hugs, andreas!

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 3:12pm
Sorry your hurting. My opinion is if he was sneaking off on trips with her and lying to you about them, that this probably was more than a friendship. And if he really doesn't want anything more to do with her then WHY would he even care if she ignored him when he saw her? He would have just blown it off. So that story about "wanting to get back at her" by asking her out and then not showing up sounds like a blatant lie to me, and personally, I would not believe it if it were my husband. Of course he is going to try to minimize this so called friendship with her by saying things like "were just friends" or "your making mountains out of molehills". He is reaching at straws to defend and hide his guilt over this. And the fact that he is lying about still having contact with her is also quite troublesome. Sit his arse down and ask him what he would honestly think if he found out YOU had snuck off on trips with some male co worker without telling him. And were making dinner dates with this person AFTER you found this out. Sorry but I think he is lying to you about his relationship with her.
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Registered: 02-27-2012
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 4:24pm

Thank you for the support and advice!

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 02-27-2012 - 6:23pm

Hi andreas,