New here, just recently betrayed...

Hello everyone,

Although its sad to see so many people posting on here, in a way it makes me feel better to know Im not alone in feeling the way I do.

I found out on Sunday that my husband of 5 years has been sleeping with a colleague. It floored me. I knew that we hadnt been that happy recently (stress of work, pressures of having a young child, money worries - the usual stuff) but I never expected that he would find someone else.

So now Im left wondering where we go from here. I love him, he says he loves me. I would like to save our marriage, he says he isnt sure. He is worried that if we try again, we might just end up unhappy a year down the line and have wasted our time.

Without a decision from him as to how to proceed, Im left in limbo... He said he knows we need to talk but that he also wants us to try and act normally. Normally. Really!?! How can I be anywhere near normal after what hes done? I cant seem to get my head straight. I have moments where I think "Yes, I love him and we can get through this together". Then I wobble and think "Can I ever get over this, stop thinking about them together and trust him again".

I guess what Im after is hope.

For someone to say that theyve been there, done that, felt that way but got past it, moved on and now have a happy wonderful marriage.

Or am I just kidding myself?