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|Tue, 08-25-2009 - 5:14pm|
I just found out a little over two weeks ago.
H came home one night and clearly upset. Recently, his mother died, he's having stress at work, not sleeping, acid reflux, back aches. The stress was getting to him. Told me he wasn't a good husband, had an affair, she got pregnant and the baby is now 15months old. I was speakless, to say the least. I didn't even know how to act or react. I tried absorbing what he said but it just wasn't adding up to everything I knew and loved about him.
He doesn't love her, he was going to end and then she got pregnant and he felt stuck. She left for a year after the baby was born and then she came back in May, he continued to see her and the baby.
I felt detached from it for awhile, went through that honeymoon phase people are talking about on here. But it's coming up again and I'm not sure how to handle it.
We have been married 8 years, together 12. We have 3 children together. The A happened after our 3rd son was born. I was going through horrible depression and blues from post pregnancy and over the fact I had my tubes tied. I still wanted another child, a girl. I just haven't felt complete because of it. We drifted, didn't have sex and I was also having some issue where it hurt for months. This was when it happened.