Not sure what to do . . . . .
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|Wed, 01-23-2013 - 1:00pm|
Hi, I'm new here and so I guess I will start with a little back story. My H and I have been married for almost 4 years, together for 7. I have one DS from a previous relationship but we do not have any children together. My H has always struggled with attention, he needs a lot of it. I've caught him multiple times talking to other women. These are usually women he finds online and not anyone we know personally. So this has been an off and on thing over the course of our relationship. Needless to say I have trust issues. About 2 years ago I caught him talking to my cousin who is also married. I confronted both of them and cut her out of our life for the time being so my we could work on our marriage without distraction. A few months ago because of family obligations that were coming up I reconciled with my cousin to try and make things less awkward at family functions, weddings, etc. I thought things were finally going good. My marriage was in a really good place and everyone was happy. We all got along ok. Then all of a sudden out of nowhere I find out my H slept with my cousin about a week ago. Apparently, they had been talking since Christmas with her having initiated the contact. He swears he's sorry and it would never have happened again. He says he regretted it the moment it happened. He's seeing a therapist now for depression and eventually marriage counseling but I'm just not sure what to do. Every day is a struggle. I keep having all these horrible thoughts and I can’t focus on anything. I feel so sick and upset. I’m sorry for the lengthiness. I’m so lost and I have no idea what to do. Any help or suggestions would be appreciated.
Side Note: My H is the only father figure my DS has. He's very involved in his life which makes thinking about my options so much harder.