IN OUR BED

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Registered: 10-07-2004
IN OUR BED
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Mon, 02-09-2009 - 4:52pm

I found out on Friday that my husband met a woman online and had sex with her in our bed!

 
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2008
In reply to: amgiles1112
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 5:34pm
omg I'm so sorry! I have no advice for you except that you tell your h to get the bed out of there. I also don' tthink you should go home right away. How did you find out? I'm so sorry.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-19-2008
In reply to: amgiles1112
Mon, 02-09-2009 - 11:05pm

gawd what are these cheaters thinking of???

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me & hubby : 26 years old
married for 2.5 years, have a son 20 months old
d-day : August 06, 2008
rebuilding
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Registered: 07-02-2008
In reply to: amgiles1112
Tue, 02-10-2009 - 12:19am

OMG, I am so sorry and cant believe what some of the Slvtty Ho's will do. I asked LOTS of questions about my H activites with his OW but the one I never

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2009
In reply to: amgiles1112
Tue, 02-10-2009 - 6:14am

Yes, I have been there. The bedroom set and our living room furmiture were taken out of the house.


The master bedroom walls were stripped of "her" wallpaper and repainted. The room is now a family office where I help my girls with their homework.


My W is in Detox/psych center to help her with addiction to coke, alcohol and dealing with depression.


Jack

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2009
In reply to: amgiles1112
Tue, 02-10-2009 - 2:50pm

I can kind of relate.

 


iVillage Member
Registered: 08-11-2008
In reply to: amgiles1112
Wed, 02-11-2009 - 2:31pm

I know exactly how you feel. My DH bought his ho into our bed also. What kind of woman stoops so low as to have S with a MM in his W bed? These women have scraped the bottom of the gutter and have lost all self respect known to man. I know my H was dumb and wrong for doing that but I think as women we should have more dignity in ourselves and not let a man de-value who we are by bringing us to that level.


Thankfully we are no longer in that house and bed but I threw every piece of linnen, towel, rag that we had in that place in the dumpster. I also made my H sell the car that he rode his tramp in. Throwing that stuff away was so liberating for me. I suggest that you either burn the bed or throw it away no matter how much it cost. No amount of money is worth having to make love to your H in the same bed as a low life ho who would stoop to that level with a MM. You are classier than that.


My H wanted me to give the linens and bath towels away to charity because they were really high quality, but I told him that no other woman should have to lay on or use items that a ho like his XOW used. I told him that he would be thrown in the dumpster also if he tried to convince me not to throw away the stuff she used in MY house. Maybe you can take it to a remote place and have a barn fire. That would really be liberating.


I also want you to know that I had a really hard time forgiving my H for bringing her into a bed that we shared and I don't think I will ever truly forgive him for that, but my T gave me some peace because she told me that the real injustice was him giving his body to another woman and breaking our vows. The bed was an object he used to feed his addiction with the A.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-11-2009
In reply to: amgiles1112
Wed, 02-11-2009 - 6:56pm
Yes, I know exactly how you feel. My husband was having his affair for 18 mths. in my house. In my bed, in the spare bed, and his truck. He had to cover his tracks and not spend any money. I got all new sheets and things. But its still horrible. I found out he was cheating when I checked his cell phone. Such a mess!!! When does the pain go away!!! I'm beginning to think I will never respect or trust my husband again.... I'm just torturing myself.