Our wedding means nothing to me now

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Registered: 01-03-2010
Our wedding means nothing to me now
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Sun, 04-25-2010 - 7:52pm

When I look back on my WH and I's marriage, our actual wedding, it means nothing now! I MEANT my vows when I said them. I stuck to them, even now after the mess that has been made. I still wear my ring. He says he carries his ring in his pocket - he hasn't worn it since about October/Nov. last year. I threw out much of our wedding stuff early on. I put all of the pictures away. I don't want to see them.


Does this feeling pass? We want to work on our M, but I just think the old one is dead, and a new one is to be made now. The

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Registered: 04-20-2010
Mon, 04-26-2010 - 11:08am
I know how you feel.
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Mon, 04-26-2010 - 11:12am

No not everything has to be remade.....it just takes time. Time is a funny thing you will know when that time passes though.

Hang in there.

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Registered: 03-26-2007
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 8:23am

I know what you mean. Our wedding photos make me sick to my stomach. He was having the affair when he married me, and was back in bed with her a month later. I still feel utterly worthless, that the man that I loved most in the world could do that to me. How little I must be worth as a human being.


We went out on Valentines, and bought new rings, and stood under the old apple tree in our garden and said new vows to each other. We think of Feb 14th as our wedding anniversary now. Bit like the Queen has two birthdays, her official birthday and her real one.


Bridget xx

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Registered: 02-03-2009
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 2:59pm
...why is he scared to ask you why you aren't wearing them?...that stood out to me...does this mean that your (the relationship's) communication is not rebuilding?...
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Registered: 04-20-2010
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 3:59pm
I think he is afraid of the answer.
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Registered: 02-03-2009
Tue, 04-27-2010 - 5:35pm
...bless you heart...
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Registered: 01-28-2004
Wed, 04-28-2010 - 6:04pm
dont stop writing in your journal though. its going to bring you to tears some days...... hang in there.