OW made the radio news..LOL

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OW made the radio news..LOL
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Tue, 08-14-2012 - 11:34am

I was making breakfast this morning and the ow's name came on the news. Seems she was busted with drug paraphernalia, meth and meth making equipment.

My H is basically your "good ol boy". He admitted to once being in a room where pot was smoked.He seemed horrified to have even been there. When we were dating I told him as a teenager I smoked pot..you would have thought I told him I was a drug trafficker.

After the first time I saw OW I asked him..Are you aware she is a druggie? Eventually he did admit he had some questions that she made excuses for...how does one actually make an excuse for needle marks???

You would have thought I would have felt vindicated this morning. I just wanted to slap the bacon out of his hand and knock him off his chair.

After awhile as I was doing dishes he came up behind me and hugged me and said "thank you". I do not normally get a "thank you" for his eggs and bacon, so I asked him for what. He said "saving me". I wanted to hold his head under the dishwater till the bubbles stopped. ( no...Not.. homicidal...Just a phrase). Seriously.who saved me from all the pain?? Who saved me everytime there was another revelation and I hit my knee's crying?

I hope she goes to prison ( not her first arrest) for a very long time. About two months ago my step-son saw her being hauled out of a motel in handcuffs and into a police car.

And yes, I did not have unprotected sex with H for a long time after her and we did get tested for aids.

Seriously, THIS is what I was almost lost for... don't I feel like a prize!!

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Tue, 08-14-2012 - 2:42pm

Ha! He didn't find that funny but I did. I love a dry sense of humor. 

My spouse began telling me at some point that anything I did to continue to punish the other men was in fact punishing her. I think there is something to that. I think one of life's ongoing lessons is to let go. I'm having one of those moments right now. An old voice I know is talking to me in the back of my head saying, "punish." But when I was punising those men, I was ignoring my family. It is a ballance of wanting to stand up for myself, wanting my kids to be proud of me if they ever find out or understand, that I didn't just roll over and let people walk on me without doing something, AND, moving on, working my forgivness, making a better life from my kiddos, my spouse and for myself. Isn't the best revenge just being happy?

Anyway, thanks for letting me vent on your thead.

Time for me to get back to selling books.

Tom 


 

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Tue, 08-14-2012 - 12:45pm
Yeah, I just checked up on my spouse's OM and he just got divorced for the second time only after 18 months. I had written his second wife and let her know about his affair with my spouse and the affair he was having on her with my spouses friend only a week before she got married to dickhead. The only reason I knew about all this was my spouse's friend thought she was building a relationship with the jerk and asked us how that would affect us. When he got married to his second wife while still dating our friend and letting her know in a text message. It went badly.

Who would have thunk?

So, I wrote the second wife that week and let her know what I knew. Told her as nicely as I could about all of it. She sent me three quick notes, one saying she was sorry for our hard times, one asking why I sent the letter, and one asking me not to write her again. I didn't respond to any of them.

It is everything I have in me not to send this new woman a note. But I'm just going to have to let go. I can't warn everyone and I can't punish him forever.

But I want to.

Chin up farmerswife12. Work your healing plan. You can do this.

Tom

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.