Pain subsides but not forgotten
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|Mon, 10-28-2013 - 7:57pm|
It's been 7 years since DDay. I have not forgotten, however the pain has subsided. A little background before my DDay: 20 years of marriage and three daughters. My H and I grew apart, he traveled a lot for work and I was a working mother with three extremely busy daughters. Loneliness set in with H traveling alot and to cope, I spent a lot of time with the girls and assisting with their activities. When H was home on the weekends, it was just another day and to get him incorporate back into our daily routine and activities it was a challenge. Resentment came from both sides and we grew apart. H found solace in online chat rooms leading to a EA with two women located in a different states. He did travel to those states for work. To this day H still claims the relationships were never intimate. I don't know the truth, but maybe it is best not to know. It took three years for H and OWs to end EAs. One OW to this date still tries to contact him periodically via his work email which unfortunately has not change, other forms of communication: phone numbers, social email addresses all have been changed or deleted. I have access to all means of communication including H email so I see everything and we have an open dialogue. I don't look or snope anymore, H tells me if he sees a message come in.
I was one of the individuals that stated "I would not stay with a man that has cheated on me". I was wrong, I stayed and we worked on our marriage, it was and is still one of the most painful times in my life, and I survived thanks to counseling and friends.
I hope for you that read the boards will find support and know that you are not alone and that there are others that understand and have experience the same pain. An in time the pain will subside and you will have moved forward.