A party.. and "SHE" will be there....

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Registered: 11-26-2009
A party.. and "SHE" will be there....
Sat, 05-29-2010 - 12:58am

My hubby will DJ a party for his coworkers.. anyways I was invited by the host ( I went to graduate school with her) .. well I looked at the list and I see my hubby's "friend" was also invited and may attend this party.. Hubby is saying come but I feel uneasy.. ( hubby showed me a pic of her on Facebook when I first found out- he thinks I forgot her face and name).. He quickly looked through the invitees, but said he did not know the crowd ( he did not goto the next page- so i am wondering if he wonders if she is coming)

Here is my problem:

If I go then I will be looking for her.. If I don't I will wonder if they are spending the night .. reconnecting...
This is a woman who he claims he just had an emotional affair with. but like many of you know.,, we will never get the whole truth...

What should I do?

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Sat, 05-29-2010 - 5:26pm

Well, with any luck at all maybe she's too busy to attend.


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Registered: 08-07-2007
Sat, 05-29-2010 - 4:24pm

Your husband is saying come ...so go to the party. Definitely go.

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Registered: 03-09-2010
Sat, 05-29-2010 - 11:19am


If it were me going to this party I would make sure to all who are there that me and my H were in good stead. I remember when the OW was part of the chamber of commerce and went to the functions my H went to I asked to go with him. I wanted to show her look he is MINE. Stay away. I wouldn't confront her but I would make sure I stayed close to H when appropriate and hold his hand, arm, whatever and kiss him lightly appropriately. I would make us look like a loving couple. Well, I won't have to do this because he quit the chamber. He is chicken for the 3 of us to be in the same social situation. He said why do this to ourselves? I told him that I almost needed to show her he was MINE! Oh well good luck in whatever you decide. If I were you I would definitely go. Take separate cars and leave if it is too much for you or you find you do not need to be there.


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