The Petraeus Affair

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The Petraeus Affair
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Mon, 11-12-2012 - 3:08pm

In a recent news story General Petraeus, the Director for the CIA stepped down this week after disclosing he had an affair.

In what looks like, a recent mistress may have been attempting to contact a new mistress of Petraeus to tell her to "go away." The messages were of a threatening nature and the frightened recipient contacted the FBI which led to the uncovering of the affair and the demise of Mr. Petraeus.

The original mistress, 40 year-old Paula Broadwell is married with two children under the age of 6. Her husband Scott, seems like a really nice person. In front of their home this weekend, an adult drew “Dad, “[heart]’s Mom” on their driveway.  Jill Kelly, the women being threatened by Broadwell is 37 and she and her husband have been friends with the Petraeus family for some five years.

I see some themes here that we talk about all the time. People making bad choices, good and kind people who love their spouse who don’t know what to do with their hurt. People with insider information acting recklessly, while others carrying on, oblivious that their world is being torn apart by strangers.

What an ugly mess.

 

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Mon, 12-17-2012 - 12:27pm
I agree, this IS a big deal to his poor W and to think that ppl should keep their mouths shut and not tell when they know someone in his position lacks character and poor judgement is ridiculous (SMH).
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Tue, 11-13-2012 - 10:42pm

It's funny how these high profile affairs grab so much attention.  An area columnist (she could be national for all I know) was saying people have affairs like this because they CAN.  For me that's another way of saying because they want to, which is how I've always felt about it.  In her column today she was saying if the director of the CIA couldn't keep this quiet, then he shouldn't be the director of the CIA.  And I agree with you - as angry and hurt as we get when our partner cheats, they aren't ALWAYS bad people, they have big problems and get some stupid idea an affair is just the ticket to fix it all....and then, of course, there's the other category who just could not care less.  Some would do it even if they knew for sure it'd halfway kill the spouse, some I'd prefer to think would not do it at all if they could look into a crystal ball.  But it never ceases to amaze me how many truly seem to think they'll never get caught. 

 

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Tue, 11-13-2012 - 5:54pm

That is an interesting thought. You know, my spouse told the OM that she paid the phone bill so I would never find out. When I went on-line and gained access to the internet version of our phone bill, my spouse sent me a panicked text that I was never going to let things go. This was a week before d-day. She promised the OM that I would never show up on his front door, so right after d-day when I called him at work I could hear the desperation in his voice when I told him that I knew about the sex. Odds are, there is always a reckoning.

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Tue, 11-13-2012 - 3:14am

Maybe this should serve as a warning to all people engaging in affairs. If the Director for the CIA can get caught...I'm sure he took heavy duty precautions to make sure this DID NOT get out. Seems like the ex  mistress (I believe I read that HE was the one to end the affair) might have felt spurned by him. And then she thinks he has a new mistress and goes bonkers. Personally I don't get it. I saw a picture of her H on the news  tonite. Very handsome young doctor. Much better looking than Patraeus. Just goes to show you how affairs are not about better looking. Seems the more powerful these men are, the more arrogant they are and the more they think they won't get caught. Ruined his life over a 4 month affair. He must feel like a real idiot about now. Her too. And I heard his wife has uprotted her life and moved 20 times to follow and support his carreer. Poor woman.

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Mon, 11-12-2012 - 9:49pm

You know, my spouse and the OM had conversations about loyalty to each other during the affair. My spidy senses tell me that the biographer probably figured out the second affair and the original affair wasn't really over. 

My spouse told me that during the discussion about loyalty with the OM that he said he wasn't dating anyone else and how pathetic he must be for being loyal to a married woman. I think my spouse told him he was her only real tempation. What he didn't know was that he was merely number 4 for my spouse. OM went on to have a physical relationship with one of our mutual friends a year later which was exactly a week before he got married to someone else. Neither woman knew about each other. He broke up with our friend by text and she only sorted it all out when he got married the following week. I wrote the new wife a letter letting her know what OM man had been up to the weeks and years before, and how a lot of people were getting tested for STDs because he didn't like to use condoms with his women and that she should get checked also. 


They divorced about 16 months later. Go figure.

So, my spouse tonight got really pissy about the news Petraeus news. "Why is the press just harping on this story?"



GRrrrrr! 



Ok, one more detail. When I spoke to the OM shortly after d-day asking him if he was going to keep pursuing my spouse and he said that we would never hear another peep from him. There was this moment when the conversation calmed and we sort of just shot the breeze for a minute or two. I told him how hard this was and that I had to contact three other men about this issue. The silence from the other end of the phone was deafening.  

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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Mon, 11-12-2012 - 7:51pm

I think it's a pretty big deal to his DW.  It also has not been confirmed that the woman who received the threatening emails was having an affair with him.  So far she & her DH are described as friends of Petraeus & his DW.  What seems ridiculous to me is that they probably could have kept this a secret if the mistress didn't send the emails--what was she thinking?  Well I guess she wasn't thinking.  And while I can see how a guy could want to have an affair with an attractive much younger woman who admired him, yes, as a public figure he should have known better.

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Mon, 11-12-2012 - 6:59pm
It is an ugly mess Thomas. I guess Patraeus' d day was brought about by the FBI. You would think people like him in the limelight would be more careful.
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Mon, 11-12-2012 - 4:04pm

  These things are so common that it is not really news.  It is jealously & ambition  nothing more.  It really is not even worth a yawn.  History is full of these actions.  It really is between the two women.  Not even a big deal.  The real problem is that there are too many blabbermouths.  It is interesting how "an official" outs the other woman.  The US intelligence community is full of loose lips. 

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