The Phone Call
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|Tue, 02-24-2009 - 1:02pm|
I hope I am in the right place. I just found this board and am hoping you all can help me...?? Last Tuesday I was here at work, working away, minding my business...when my cell phone rang. A girl said, "Ms. B, I don't know how to tell you this...."...I'm thinking...OMG, he's had an accident, he's hurt, or DEAD!....but that was not the case at all. She proceeded to say, "Your husband, JB, is cheating on you with a blonde headed girl that he works with. I will not give you her name or my name or any other details but if I were married to him, I would want someone to tell me this." I said, "Ok, how did you get my phone number?" She said, "From his phone." and hung up the phone...just like that.
Of course I call him right away and confront him. Guess what he said? "I don't have any idea what you're talking about or why someone would do this. Is this a joke?" Here a week later, he doesn't know anything. There is no story. He has not one clue. I've asked him if someone could have misconstrued something he's done or said...and he says, "No."
He says he is not cheating on me but....there have been sexual problems...For the last several months, he "loses focus" during the act, if you know what I mean. There have been several times when I've tried to call him in the evenings and cannot reach him for 45 mins to an hour...
A year ago, January, I accidentally happened upon 2 very flirtatious text messages from some girl he works with. He explained that away as they were friends and she got carried away. He didn't respond to those texts...at least using his cell phone...and nothing further happened after that until now.
What do you guys think? I can't see my husband being with another woman. We've been together since high school! However...we've had our problems...we have 3 children, 2 of them came back-to-back unexpectedly and it's been a tough year for us. I am not naive but I also would never cheat on my husband.
Right now, we argue and then we are civil. When he tries to touch me, I'm just nauseated and disgusted.
I don't know what to do.
Please help me.