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|Mon, 04-19-2010 - 9:08am|
this is my first post here
on friday night my dad phoned me to tell me he has been having an affair for the past 6 months. obviously my mum doesnt know he told me he had to talk to someone but now im at a loss as to what im supposed to do.
ive been crying on and off since the call and havent actually spoke to my dad since or actually spoke to my mum because i fear im now part of this and that by talking to her about general things im somehow lieing to her. i have this huge knot in my stomach that wont go away and from the minute i wake up in the morning its all i can think about.
i would never in a million years thought that my dad could do something like this :( i always thought they had the best relationship and i feel like such a baby in the crying that i have done coz im nearly 30 with kids of my own.
what am i supposed to do with thtis information?? i cant tell my mum because im scared, scared she will blame me for being the one to tell her and scared for what i know will happen if/when she finds out. it would seriously destroy my mums world she has lived her whole life for her family can i seriously be the one to destroy all that for her??
ive told no one except my DF who at first thought i should tell her everything but has left it for me to decide, tbh i wish i never knew because no matter what happens im in this mess too, if she did find out then found out that i knew would she ever forgive me??
i love my dad i really do but i love my mum sooooo much that i wouldnt want to hurt her, i cant talk to any fmaily or anything coz i dont want people knowing this and looking at her different or even knowing things about her marriage that she doesnt, in case she never found out.
please please please can someone anyone give me some advise i dont know what to do for the best