A Question on Counciling

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2009
A Question on Counciling
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Wed, 06-24-2009 - 11:30am

My wife and I have attended 8 sessions in total so far. What we have gained is our ability to communicate for the last 3 months. We have in the last two weeks had big discussions regarding the A. What it meant to her, how it started, what she thought she gained or lost, how she felt. The whens and whys. What got her to that point. How she actively came to the decision to do it. Her regrets, although she did say that in a way things happen in life for a reason and that we are becoming so much closer now than we have been in the last 8 years. As a side note: the other night she actually pinned me up against the wall, kissed me and and said " I want you to know that the closer you and I get the farther the AP is. Don't give up on us, we can do this togeather" That totally caught me off guard. It was really kind of reassuring. Things seem to be progressing along.


My question is if our communication is going along so well. What more will I gain in returning to a councilor.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2009
Wed, 06-24-2009 - 4:22pm

atiblenn,


We've traded messages on some of the other boards and I couldn't help but respond to this.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-13-2009
Wed, 06-24-2009 - 11:22pm

We still see a councillor 18 months after dday.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-23-2009
Sat, 06-27-2009 - 7:52pm

I suggest bringing it up in couseling - with the therapist - and maybe she can help determine why wife is reluctant to share.


iVillage Member
Registered: 06-19-2009
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 12:27pm
Everyone seems to be saying the same thing about going back to counciling. I agree. Right now we are in a holding pattern. By that I mean that we still communicating better. She is more affection towards me and is making efforts as far her whereabouts , calling me from work daily to let me know what her schedule is. If I'm having a bad day...like a trigger kind of day, she is the first one to say "let's talk about it". So