re nanci911

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Fri, 06-05-2009 - 4:15pm

This is my first time ever being on here.

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In reply to: bitterpill37
Sat, 06-06-2009 - 2:36am

Hun, are you getting any help? Have you talked to a therapist or anything.

I hope so. At least get a book on betrayal or something. There are some really good ones.

Thomas

5 kids ages 15-9, D Day: August 5, 2008

Status: Figuring it out. Together.

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.

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In reply to: bitterpill37
Sat, 06-06-2009 - 5:44pm

Thankyou for replying.

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In reply to: bitterpill37
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 2:57am

Sweetie

First of all, couples counseling is to fix the other person. Individual counseling is about fixing yourself. If nobody is ready to fix themselves in the relationship. It's going to be a long haul. Take care of you first. Individual C is mandatory for you. Not that you are crazy or anything. I consider myself a fairly smart person. But it took me and the shrink dealing with my stuff to prepare me to deal with my spouse.

You take care of you and what ever you choose to do will be a lot easier.

Post to us what you are up to. Vent to us about what is going on. it will help. ok!

Sending good vibes. Ok!!!!

take care.

Thomas

5 kids ages 15-9, D Day: August 5, 2008

Thomas

We have five kids. Our D-Day was in August, 2008.